Should all of my children have the same bedtime?
Real Mom Problem
“I am hoping to move my younger son into my older son's room. My concern is how to deal with bedtimes. Any suggestions?”
- 1. Some moms stagger their children's bedtimes and let the older children stay up later than the younger kids
- 2. Other moms find it easier to have one set bedtime for all the children
- 3. Whatever their preference, many moms allow kids to stay up later on the weekends
Real Mom Solutions
Maintaining a nighttime schedule for siblings can be a challenge. See how these moms manage multiple children at bedtime.
These Moms Stagger Sibling Bedtimes
My oldest is ten and goes to bed at 9:30 during the school week and gets up at 7:45. His bedtime on the weekend is 10:00-10:30. His brother is six and goes to bed between 8:30-9:00 during the school week and gets up at 7:45. His bedtime on the weekend is 9:30.
My 12-year-old goes to bed at 9 pm and is up at 6 am. My eight-year-old goes to bed at 8:30 and is up at 7:30 for school. My five-year-old is in bed at 7:30. She will get up at 7:30 am when she starts kindergarten. Friday nights are movies nights and I start the movies right after we eat so the movies starts at 6:00 pm and my five-year-old never makes it. On weekends they still have the same bedtime.
My six-year-old goes to bed around 9:00 and my nine-year-old at 9:30 on school nights. Otherwise, my nine-year-old gets to stay up until 10:00. On school days I get them up at 7:45. Our bedtime routine starts at about 8:00 when I tell them to go take showers, then they get a snack, brush teeth, say prayers, and go to bed at 9:00. Our nine-year-old gets to watch TV in bed until 9:30.
My oldest is nine-and-a-half and going into fourth grade. He goes to bed at 9:00 and gets up at 7:30. My youngest is six-and-a-half and going into first grade. He goes to bed at 8:30 and gets up at 7:30. For us their "going to bed time" is actually a lights out time, they have already brushed teeth and done their nighttime routine by then and their lights have to be out, no matter what, at that time.
Others Set Same Time for All Kids
My kids are ages eight, five, and three. They all start getting ready for bed at about 8. They are in bed by 8:30 and usually fall asleep no later than 9. This is for school nights. Weekends it's usually an hour later. Sometimes we let them just stay up until they are tired, which ends up being shortly after 10 anyway. Hubby and I never really had an issue deciding on bedtimes, it just came naturally.
My girls are ten and six. They go to bed at 9 o'clock on school nights because they get up at 6 am. They don't have a specific bedtime on Friday night or Saturday night.
My kids are six and seven. Both go to bed at 7:30 every night except Friday. Then they can stay up until 8:00. They go to bed early on Saturday so they can be ready for Sunday morning church service at 8 am.
Bedtime for my kids is 9 pm, no exceptions, even on the weekends! I have found that, for my kids anyway, if I let them stay up late on the weekends, during the week they fight to go to sleep at bedtime! The boys bathe at 8:00 and my daughter at about 9:00, and they know when they get out it's time to lie down. Yes, I do have to remind them sometimes, especially my three-year-old. It is a constant struggle getting him to bed! We all get up at 6:00 every morning and they are at school by 7:20.
Our kids start getting ready at 8:30, and are in bed by 9:00. They're six, eight, and ten. We moved to 9 pm instead of 8 pm about a year ago. And since we're very consistent, they're all asleep a few minutes after they lay down, and they sleep until 7ish in the morning.