Is it normal for sex to hurt while pregnant?

Real Mom Problem

“Have any of you experienced pain during sex while pregnant? Is there any position that won't hurt so much? I feel bad for my hubby because I avoid sex now because of the pain. It's not that I don't want it, I just know it's going to hurt!”

by 4thAndLast 4thAndLast

Quick Tips

  • 1. It is common to experience some discomfort during sex while pregnant
  • 2. Trying new positions, taking a warm bath, and using lubricant have all helped moms dealing with pain during sex
  • 3. Talk to your doctor to make sure you don't have an infection that is causing pain

Real Mom Solutions

Many women experience pain during sex while they are pregnant. Learn what to do to make sex more comfortable during these nine months.

Know You're Not Alone

  • TessaRae01

    I turn my boyfriend down for sex all the time. It's uncomfortable, and very painful. Not just after, but during. I can count on both hands how many times we have had sex within the past 36 weeks. Talk to your doctor because it could be in an infection. If not, then it's just normal pregnancy pains.

Talk to Your Doctor

  • Heather2001

    I'd bring it up to your doc, just in case. You might have an infection that's causing the pain and not giving you any other symptoms and if that's the case, it's easily fixed.

  • SuperMILFof2

    If it's painful on the inside I'd ask your doctor. But if it's your body just try different positions. My hips hurt so bad I don't even bother anymore.

Try These Tips for Less Painful Sex

  • Schleetle

    Sometimes it hurts when I have sex with my husband, but we use lube, he takes it easy on me, and we find comfortable positions. A warm bath before helps relax all the muscles down there so I'm not too tense.

  • Mrs.Andrews

    I dealt with a lot of pain and pressure, especially after sex. I think it's from all the extra blood flow. You might try a warm bath if the pain happens again. I also found sitting as much as possible helped.

  • cksmith1

    It has gotten so painful for me to have sex. I talked to my doctor about it and she said that because of the increased blood volume I am most likely uber-swollen down there since the blood vessels are swollen. Only thing she suggested was lots of lube, making sure I am relaxed and lots of foreplay, but I haven't tried any of them yet. I'm too scared its going to hurt! My poor hubby!

  • sweetktn

    I had never even heard of SPD (Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction) until my fourth pregnancy. I would be in so much pain I would just cry all the time. It was bad and sex was a big problem too. The ONLY position that would work was spooning. Him laying on his side behind you then you position yourself with your upper body farther away from him, put your top leg over his top leg and rest it there, then his top leg between your legs and you should be able to figure out the rest. Try it and see if it works. Also leaves his hands free to wander.