It's hard enough to find direction to correct a mistake (or even about life). If I already understood my mistake well enough not to repeat, how do I ask for help without getting my nose rubbed in repetitive hindsight?
I keep saying "I understand what I've done, I just need some direction on what to do from here on out". I keep getting statements like "Just don't do that again" to "Why did you do that?". If I'm not already stressed about the consequences of a mistake, these needless circular statements cause more tension (even if the listener is "Just trying to help"). I'm to the point that I no longer open myself to discussion, especially when the listener's answer to the original question is "I don't know what to do about that". (Not here on Cafemom, but in everyday discussion.)
Answer by LoriKeet at 10:36 AM on Jan. 4, 2009
Answer by happi-ladi at 11:20 AM on Jan. 4, 2009
I am not sure of what mistake(s) you have made. I do know that you need to acknowledge what you did wrong apologize forgive yourself and move forward. It would be a good ideal to talk to a therapist and get down to the issues and figure out why you are making these mistakes. As far as I am concerned everyone has made some kind of mistake in their life. Learn from your mistake and move on.
Answer by mommiedear at 12:46 PM on Jan. 4, 2009
Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 1:17 PM on Jan. 4, 2009
Answer by mommie2twogirls at 7:46 PM on Jan. 4, 2009