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i think i just need to vent a little about the neighbores...

ok we live in a farm house/ duplex. our neighbors who havent been here a year are getting to me. they seem nice at times keep to themselfs which i love but he still has his xmas light up on his porch which is fine but my bedroom windows are right there and the lights light up my bedroom and i have trouble falling asleep and then staying asleep. im gonna ask nicely if he can turn them off at like 11 pm but right now there on 24/7. they also owe us 40.00 for plowing ( we have to pay for plowing not the landlord ) so dh got a plow. it was agreed 20.00 a storm. for gas and time. well we had 3 storms they paid for one. and theres another coming on wed. if there having trouble with money fine but talk to us. were money tight to we have 4 kids. i dont want to walk up to him and say hey u owe us 40 and our lanlord dosent help.

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:08 AM on Jan. 4, 2009 in Home & Garden

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  • I would start with the Christmas lights. Then, when it comes time for you to plow again, mention that you guys wont be able to afford to keep doing it if they cant help you with the cost. Bring up the fact that you have 4 kids! Surely they will understand if they are seemingly reasonable people!

    Answer by GraciesMomLJP at 10:17 AM on Jan. 4, 2009

  • Go buy some black out blinds. Or curtains with blackout material on the back of them. That should solve the lights glaring in the bedroom window problem.

    About the plowing, can you do only your side of the house, leave their side alone?

    That's what I would do, if possible


    Answer by louise2 at 10:25 AM on Jan. 4, 2009

  • Don't complain about the lights. Choose your battles, and right now there is an easy solution for the lights problem. Get the blinds that shut out light. Then you will have them for next year or other neighbor/ light problems. Explain that you won't be able to plow the whole place if they don't pay their share of the gas and upkeep. Suggest that they call around and find someone else to do it. When they discover how much it costs to hire somebody else, maybe they'll come around.

    Answer by Bmat at 10:53 AM on Jan. 4, 2009

  • Try letting him know...he may not realize the lights are bothering you! And then a simple reminder about the money for the plowing...See what happens. It is better than letting it fester and possibly getting really mad and blowing up at them!

    Answer by BJoan at 10:54 AM on Jan. 4, 2009

  • When I lived in the upper apt of a house several years ago, I would shovel the snow for my convenience, not the neighbors. Unfortunately they would benefit also. You shouldn't let that bother you, because it has to be done, for your benefit. If you don't have blinds or curtains on you bedroom windows, perhaps you should get them, just for the privacy one should have in their home when its dark and the world can see in but you can't see out as well. You can suggest that they use a timer to turn the lights off at a reasonable time because they are disturbing your sleep.

    Answer by Iluvautumn at 2:05 PM on Jan. 4, 2009

  • I would sneak over in the night and unplug the lights & then cut the plug off the cord. then when its time to plow only plow your side.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:31 AM on Jan. 5, 2009

  • we would just plow our side but our driveways like an 8 with us near the top and them by the botton ( enternce) were thinking of just not plowing next strorm on wednesday. dh's truck can get in and i dont leave when its yucky out. befoe they moved in we spent tons on plowing 30.00 a storm and there were 3 storms in one week. ( 30.00 per apt so us and the neighbors ) so when these guys moved in we told them that wer bought a plow truck and it was agreed 20 a storm. now they are gonna have to give us 60 if we get this storm on wed and we might get another on sat. its just annoying we need cash to and the truck needs gas. dh takes the time to do it and maintain the truck and keeps up with the strom.

    Answer by tabbys4 at 10:20 AM on Jan. 5, 2009

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