I am not a confrontational person at all. I can't just tell people to shove it especially when they are family and people I can about. I am a people pleaser to the extreme sometimes and I don't think I'm going to just grow a back bone anytime soon.
So how do you deal with family that is convinced that your cousin's homebirth with an illegal midwife was better then your emergency c-section? Even worse how do I explain to family and friends who when I talk to them about what I want to do next time(ie I just want another c-section and formula worked better for me and my last baby) and I say what they don't want to hear so they either hear what they want,feel the need to educate me or just ignore what I'm saying all together and assume that I'm confused and will make the "right" choice when the time comes because every woman wants what they want? I just feel very intimidated and don't want to feel like my family thinks that I'm stupid or confused,and I definately don't want to be guilted into doing anything I'll regret in trying something I know I hate to make family happy with me and believe me I REALLY regret my last breastfeeding attempt enough so that I wish I could take it back because I'm still paying for it both mentally and physically.
Although I appreciate when people give kudos and affirmation I really do need some practical solutions that mesh with my personality,thank you.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:54 AM on Oct. 12, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by paulsmomma at 2:15 AM on Oct. 12, 2011
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Answer by mrsgino at 8:59 AM on Oct. 12, 2011
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