I notice a lot of you saying things like "that's not her place, she has no right, that's up to you and your ex to decide..."
I personally think it's a load of crap! I am a full time, have custody of my step child and biological children, make all my descisions with my current husband concerning our children, wife and mother!
I believe parents who divorce should try to get along but everyday things like haircuts, clothes and daily activities should not be "run by" the person you are no longer with. If you're not with them anymore my guess is it is because you didn't agree with them on some things... couldn't agree then don't expect to agree now.
The BM in my situation tries to pull this attitude with us... she can't stand that we're an "us" and tries to tell my husband that they need to make descions together concerning their child and he has flat out told her "I have nothing to discuss with you, I'll make a desicion with my wife and get back to you." Or " You do what you want when she with you and we'll handle it our way when she's at home."
Bottom line people are going to do what they are going to do... you can't control what goes on in the other parents home... so I feel I have every right, the power and say so when it comes to my step child...
Answer by shanapiv at 2:53 AM on Oct. 17, 2011
Answer by newstepmom61811 at 4:52 PM on Oct. 16, 2011
Sounds like you will do just fine with your tolerant and flexible attitude. LOL
Answer by Anonymous at 4:51 PM on Oct. 16, 2011
Where's the down vote for questions?
Anyway that being said, since your DH (not you) has custody then yes, day to day decisions do not need to be addressed with the mother. However, in most of the situations described in the former questions, the mother is the one with full custody & the child(ren) are only with their father & his new wife on the weekends. In those instances, then YES, the step mom has over-stepped her boundaries.
Answer by 3libras at 4:57 PM on Oct. 16, 2011
Answer by QueenMomma2023 at 4:48 PM on Oct. 16, 2011
Answer by JackieGirl007 at 7:15 PM on Oct. 16, 2011
Answer by JackieGirl007 at 8:55 PM on Oct. 16, 2011
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