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Why is this so hard????

My bf and I are expecting our first child and it's going to be a little girl.
We have a first and a middle name picked out.
However, he and I aren't married let alone engaged. We have every intention of getting married someday.

But what last name do I put on the birth certificate as her last name??

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:28 PM on Jan. 5, 2009 in Pregnancy

Answers (14)
  • i would put his.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:29 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

  • Thats totally up to you. If you know you will be married you can put his last name, but it can always be changed with yours when you get married, so you could use yours now. Good luck.

    Answer by LovinMyMikayla at 8:30 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

  • Nope! You should put yours on the birth certificate. What if things don't work out??

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:30 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

  • It's up to you. If you are positive you are getting married, you can put his. I would only put the bf if I was positive we would be together, and get married.

    I normally say to put your last name because in the event of you never getting married her having your last name makes things a lot easier. When my parents divorced my mom went back to her maiden name and needed a notarized form to prove she was my mother to sign for things...

    Answer by celticreverie at 8:30 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

  • yours

    Answer by krazymom2k03 at 8:32 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

  • same problem here..
    but since me and my bf arent engaged and we're still young
    i wanted to put my last name..
    knowing that anything can happen in the relationship.
    but he'll get mad if i put mine..
    my parents want me to put mine too so im just really confused
    i have the baby in about 7 weeks or so.

    Answer by misty91 at 8:39 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

  • If you KNOW you are getting married then just put his last name. if you are not comfortable with that hyfanate it. and if you really arent comfy with child having diff name from you put yours only then when you get married change it

    Answer by icn_mom at 8:55 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

  • yours that way IF things dont work out you both have the same last name.....if you want to comprimise(sp) you can do both, just a thought

    Answer by midnightmoma at 9:32 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

  • I'd put yours. Maybe that will give him a little more incentive to actually go through with it...if that is his intention.

    Answer by Isaidit at 10:08 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

  • If a man is good enough to sleep with a create a baby with he should be good enough to pass on his last name to his baby!! JMO

    Answer by scaredmommy08 at 10:38 PM on Jan. 5, 2009

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