I know this may be inflammatory but I think that women that have split with the fathers of their children may need to realize that if daddy has visitation or custody there is a gap in his household. Why is it so terrible for a step mother to step in and fill that gap? If she's good to them, if the relationship is healthy, why do you get so defensive? She can't take away who you are to them, you determine your role in their lives! Why Why can't she be a mother to them as well? There's only room for one? Is that for you or for your kids? Honestly. I know it's really really hard, I do, but how is it good for the kids to make damn sure she knows she's not the "real" mom? How does that conflict benefit the children? SERIOUSLY!
Asked by Anonymous at 1:07 PM on Oct. 27, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 11:49 PM on Oct. 27, 2011
Answer by 3libras at 1:21 PM on Oct. 27, 2011
Answer by Candi1024 at 1:39 PM on Oct. 27, 2011
well 3libras makes a point most moms want their kids to spend time alone with their dad. if his gf is there once in awhile ok fine but i don't think they should need to be there all the time, also if their married ok fine but alot of times someone either dad or step mom try to impose that their step parent is their MOM, and that's where most of the problem lies. if you all can get along great! but more times then not it doesn't happen. in my case my exs gf trys to take my place with dd and even tells dd's dad if hes made a stupid rule and they both totally disrespect me when my dd is over there. they've crossed boundaries that shouldn't be crossed ..my dd is 3 and has come home callin me a fucking bastard and more she tells me who's said it and ext.. is most of the drama unnecessary yes but its not always the "bio" moms fault.
Answer by rachel216 at 1:37 PM on Oct. 27, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 1:58 PM on Oct. 27, 2011
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Answer by rachel216 at 1:40 PM on Oct. 27, 2011
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