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what do i do if i think my husband is cheating on me

he took his ex girlfriends number today and talked to her on his way to work. and i know it is wrong but i have suspected this for a while, but i checked his myspace page today and he wrote her a note saying he has been thinking about her alot. i don't know what to do im scared and a nervous wreck right now. all he does is thinks about other girls and women and not about me and the baby. he is always going to strip clubs which is where he cheated on me the first time at. he took a stripper to a motel 3 cities away and had sex with her. what should i do. answer me someone please because i am scared of losing him.

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:28 PM on Jan. 6, 2009 in Relationships

Answers (19)
  • honey as hard as this is to hear... you shouldn't be scared of losing a creep like that. he has done it before and it's obvious he's doing it again. you shouldn't put all of yourself into someone that doesn't love you back. if he did he wouldn't be doing this to you.

    confront him. who cares if he gets mad. he shouldn't be doing this in the first place.

    Answer by MamaChanny at 4:30 PM on Jan. 6, 2009

  • why would you want to be with someone that don't respect you and love you hun i think you need to get ride of him

    Answer by butterscotch297 at 4:30 PM on Jan. 6, 2009

  • sweetie, it may be better to let him go before he gives you a "gift that keeps on giving" (std)

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:31 PM on Jan. 6, 2009

  • if he is going to treat you like that, maybe you're better off without him. i know that's not what you want to hear, but he already violated your trust once and i t sounds like he either already is or getting ready to do so again, perhaps you should leave him
    i'm sorry your going through this, momma, but it eventually does get better

    Answer by bi-polarmommy at 4:31 PM on Jan. 6, 2009

  • Sorry. But if it's that bad,, you can do bad all by yourself. This if what you call triflin (try-f-lynn)- AKA a nigga AKA a dog. Its going to hurt but seems like you'll be better on without him. You'll worry yourself to death thinking about what he's doing all the time

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:35 PM on Jan. 6, 2009

  • You have to decide if your going to stay with him, knowing he is a cheater. Or start planing to leave him. You need to find out 100% if he is cheating first. Sound like he is definitely emotionally cheating, but is he sexualy cheating?


    Answer by louise2 at 4:40 PM on Jan. 6, 2009

  • Why are you afraid of losing someone who clearly doesn't love you back?? Do you really want to be stuck in a relationship with someone who would take a stripper 3 cities away to have sex with her??? You deserve to have a man that worships the ground you walk on, not just someone who tolerates your relationship.

    Answer by feesharose at 4:44 PM on Jan. 6, 2009

  • pardon my lack of respect for a man who lacks respect for his wife and child but what a f*ckin pig! You need to move on, don't be a victim anymore of his infidelity.


    Answer by Apr1l at 4:50 PM on Jan. 6, 2009

  • Get up and get the phone call a friend your parents in alaska florida europe whereever family or friends are who you can stay with to put divorce plans in motion - my husband used to go to strip clubs and is now into hard porn. You are worth respect, your kids are too. Maybe a friend from a church or someplace will let you stay with them to get on your feet. Just leave. It's going to get worse.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:58 PM on Jan. 6, 2009

  • if he cheated on you once he could do it again. i would leave his ass. stripper? thats nasty. you could get stds from him if hes not being careful. you dont deserve that. but i would def confront him. tell him if he doesnt get his ass straightened up your leaving him!

    Answer by Rebekahs_Mommy at 5:11 PM on Jan. 6, 2009

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