My 6th grade daughter has played in the school band for almost 2 years. She is very good at it, she is first chair. She doesn't practice as often as she should be, but is naturally good at it. THE THING IS, SHE SAYS SHE HATES IT. I hate to see her quit something she is good at, and I wish my mom would have pushed me to do more things like that. Also, I know that music is a part of a well rounded education, but I feel like I should not make her stay in it if she's miserable. Any opinions?
Answer by PrydferthMenyw at 7:39 PM on Jan. 6, 2009
I wouldn't make her if she hates. Help her find some other interest.
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Answer by mypoohbear at 9:28 PM on Jan. 6, 2009
Tell her to finish out the year, and if she still doesn't like it then she can stay out of it when the new school year starts. Tell her you understand her feelings, but she is not the only one in the school band and other kids are counting on her. Just like in sports, everyone needs to work as a team. Explain to her that she will just have to tough it out for the rest of the school year, and she won't have to sign up again after that if she doesn't want to. You should stress the importance of team work in other situations so she gets the idea, and explain how it's not fair to the other team members if one person quits. Every person in the team/group/band is an important part and they all count on one another to make their team/group/band great. And tell her next year she shouldn't sign up or join something unless she intends to follow through.
Answer by MomOfJandM at 9:36 PM on Jan. 6, 2009