My divorce of three years was finalized October 16 of 2008. Until the court date my husband really didnt have anything to do with him over the last year and a half. I just feel he is trying to turn my 13year old against me. My oldest son of 18years of age lives with his dad. He hasnt talked me in over 4months. My youngest has told me on different occasions that his dad and his dads brothers sit around and bad mouth me. He doesnt pay support, theres times I just wish I didnt have to let my son go with him on weekends. The last 2 times he has come home not wanting to talk to me and has been very disrespectful with no explanation. The more I try and talk to him it seems the madder he gets. I have made mistakes in my life that I am not proud and I am beginning to think my ex has shared that information with my oldest???Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 7:50 PM on Jan. 6, 2009
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 7:57 PM on Jan. 6, 2009
Answer by melody77 at 8:34 PM on Jan. 6, 2009
We had the same problem with my step-son 15. Ex didn't want to support her kids anymore so she started telling them things that their dad had done right after they were born. He was engaged to someone else and they had a child and ended up moving several states away. His plan was to get settled and seek custody of the kids. She told them that he abandoned them. Step-son believed her and has since moved into her home after living with us for six years, but step-daughter 13 decided that she had it better here and still lives with us. We have told both kids that they were more than welcome to ask any questions and they would be answered. As far as visitation goes, if he is not comfortable going, I would take to your ex and tell him that. If you can not agree, I think I would seek legal advice. Maybe the visitation can be modified in some way. Good luck to you!
Answer by sammy12868 at 6:00 AM on Jan. 7, 2009