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Is it normal for an 11 year old to have sexual feelings?

The girl is 11 and she has been on an emotional roller coaster because of a boy? She told her mom today, that when she thinks about him she gets nervous and feels like she has to pee. Could she be having sexual feelings. She has never been around the boy, other than school, so we know that nothing has happened between them. She doesn't understand the feelings that she is having.So when do girls start feeling that?

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:04 PM on Jan. 7, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Are you not a girl? She is a normal child. Do not make big deal about it. Every child is the world has the same feelings. Just let it ride.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:06 PM on Jan. 7, 2009

  • HEY ANON #1 It is normal for an 11 year old to have sexual feelings?????????? At 11, I DID no such thing!

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:08 PM on Jan. 7, 2009

  • It's normal.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:24 PM on Jan. 7, 2009

  • completely normal

    Answer by sammy12868 at 8:37 PM on Jan. 7, 2009

  • We are all sexual beings, even tho some may forget that. It is normal, however she may not understand what is happening, puppylove or a first love can make those feelings stronger but most of the time it is inocent, it is her first time being in love IMO

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:38 PM on Jan. 7, 2009

  • I think it's normal, but she needs to be talking with her mom about these feelings.

    Answer by Maddape48854 at 9:28 PM on Jan. 7, 2009

  • Every feeling we have is normal. So if she is sharing what she is thinking and feeling it is normal. It is perfectly age appropriate that at 11 she develops a crush on some boy and she feels nervous around him. Now mom can begin what is her right of passage with her daughter. She can talk to her about growing up and having crushes. She can answer her questions honestly and with compassion. Have mercy on tweens and teens because at this age it is all drama. And they deserve a compassionate compass to steer them in the right direction.  How cool is that that there is a tween who confided in her mother with such details!  I think that mom rocks.


    Answer by frogdawg at 9:44 PM on Jan. 7, 2009

  • its completely normal in 5th grade all my friends had that feeling right now i am in my first year of college and that happens to my daughter that is 11 a lot and she has a boyfriend i only approve of the boy if i meet him and they didnt break up for 2 months it is a school record in hers

    Answer by sexymama1992 at 11:44 PM on Jan. 7, 2009

  • Does nobody have a problem with an 11 year old having a boyfriend??????

    Seriously I don't get it!

    Shouldn't other things be thier priority?

    Yes, her feeling are within being normal.

    Answer by luckysevenwow at 11:58 PM on Jan. 7, 2009

  • it not her boyfriend (PP) right? It is very normal you are sooo lucky that she feel comfortable coming to you and telling you. You guys must have a great relationship.

    Answer by Cherish050307 at 12:03 AM on Jan. 8, 2009

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