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So, 2 1/2 years ago, my BIL moved in with us. He had been being supported by his father, but his father finally got fed up with it and told him "sink or swim". He sunk. Living out of his broken down vehicle and not taking medication for his clotting disorder, he ended up in the hospital. My husband being the only one this guy will listen to, he had him move in.
2 1/2 years later, he is unemployed, no prospects of moving out, and has to be reminded regularly to either take out the trash or the recycling (his one responsibility since he's moved in here). He spends the majority of his time either watching tv or sitting on his computer. He contributes nothing to the household; he's a leech.
A few months ago, my FIL called my husband and said he'd met a guy who'd been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hypoactive Disorder and that when he looked it up, the symptoms matched up with my BIL's behavior. He said he was willing to pay for it if my BIL would go to the doctor and see if this is what his problem is. Well, the one thing I really wanted to *not* happened with that situation happened. I had hoped they'd look at him carefully before making a diagnosis. Nope! His first visit, he was pretty much told "So, this is what you're here about? Ok. We'll give you an official diagnosis of this. Here's some medication."
I really think that the man is just lazy. Quite honestly, the fact that he *is* on medication just makes me more frustrated with him. I mean, really, 26 years old and if he doesn't get told to take the trash out, he'll leave it till we have maggots. Granted, if he's asked to do something he'll do it, but its a half-assed job. Ex: take the trash out but not replace the bag, sweep the floor but only get the big chunks up, put the dishes in the cupboard but not put them where they belong.
Anyway, let us assume that he does in fact have this disorder. Does anyone know how long after beginning treatment we should expect to see results? He's been put on antidepressants and someone told me that it takes about a month for them to build up in the system.
Answer by gdiamante at 11:57 AM on Nov. 14, 2011
Answer by robinkane at 12:27 PM on Nov. 14, 2011
Answer by gdiamante at 2:33 PM on Nov. 14, 2011