i have a 11year old son by another man. me and my husband have been married 4 years. my son and him are awalys fighting. my son will not mind talks back says i hate you.. stuff like that. says he going to tell the school he hits him stuff like that. my husband is at the end of his rope. please give me some adviceon how to handle this.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:50 AM on Jan. 8, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)
Why is he permitted to speak in that manner to any adult in the first place? That little man needs a stern talking to. Unbelievable!
Answer by Anonymous at 10:53 AM on Jan. 8, 2009
Answer by SMWOODS at 10:54 AM on Jan. 8, 2009
Answer by bduckett0723 at 10:54 AM on Jan. 8, 2009
Answer by bduckett0723 at 11:11 AM on Jan. 8, 2009
They may need some outside help. Professional yes and also just some common sense help. There is obviously a lot of anger and behind that hurt that your son is experiencing. While you may have been ready to move forward and expand your family with a new husband - he may not have been. So the first thing to do is have a good night out with your husband and agree your child is not a bad kid but a child who is hurt, lost, anxious, confused and it comes out as anger. I would also then have a meeting with the school to let them know what is going on, briefly they don't need to know EVERY detail of your home. I would let them know that you would appreciate their support in that if they have concerns to please let you know. cont..
Answer by frogdawg at 12:06 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
Answer by frogdawg at 12:10 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
cont...Do fun things with him that he is interested in. That is the start. A good professional will help with techniques that will assist the both of you in how to respond to his hurtful outbursts. But you and your husband really must be on the same page about your son being a good kid - but a hurt kid. That has to be the starting point.
Answer by frogdawg at 12:11 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
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