SS (17) has done nothing in the 10 years that I have been married DH but got back and forth between his dad, me, BM and SD lying to each of us about the other. His dad in the last two years has been able to see SS for the person he really is, since I back away from SS and SS began doing the things he was doing to me to DH! SS's BM, however cannot see the nose on her face much less see SS for who he is! SD is just stupid...nothing else to say about him! Anyway, BM and Stepdad bring home $183,000 per year (after taxes) DH and I bring home $60,000 a year. DH pays CS every month ($600 for two boys), covers the boys on his insurance and pays half of all uncovered medical bills, and will be responsible for 50% of college on each. DH is not responsible for any extras according to their Divorce Decree. Now BM called DH last night asking if we can help her buy a truck for SS. We have a daughter together and do not have extra money.Answer Question
Answer by TammyG. at 6:56 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
Answer by goaliemom93 at 7:44 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:28 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
I think a car is a luxury to be earned, and I would not buy my own child a car unless they were doing something to earn it. If BM wants to do that for her son, more power to her. My SS 15 thinks that we will pay for him to be insured on our cars so he can drive when he comes to visit...not going to happen. We have two other children that live with us that we have to take care of.
Answer by sammy12868 at 6:04 AM on Jan. 9, 2009
Thanks for your answers. We told SS before he got his DL that we would give him my husbands car when we were able to get a new one (I don't think a newly driving teenager should have a new car). He flat out told me and DH that he would not be caught dead driving that car! After that DH and I both have said that we were not giving it to him now no matter what BM said. When she called the other night that was the first thing out of her mouth "You said you were going to give SS your car and SS told me that you were keeping it!" Now we never said anything to SS about not giving it to him....that is him lying again, and he really wants a truck not the car! My DH is hell bent on not helping her with a dime towards a new truck and says that even if we did have extra money he wouldn't help because SS doesn't deserve it. I just wanted to get some opinions from other moms to make sure he (we) are doing the right thing!
Answer by NEWMAN12 at 8:36 AM on Jan. 9, 2009
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