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How can u get someone to see??

How can u get someone to see that your not a bad person and that you are sorry for the things that has happened and that your not trying to hurt their kids. And that you are trying to make things better between each other. How do you get someone to stop believing other people and try for themselves??

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 4:46 PM on Jan. 8, 2009 in Relationships

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  • You cant force people to do those kinds of things unfortunately
    HollyRose

    Answer by HollyRose at 4:48 PM on Jan. 8, 2009

  • Invite the person for coffee and have a talk. Or if that won't happen, if you encounter the person in the hallway or yard or store, say that you are sorry and that it would mean a great deal for you to talk.
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 4:48 PM on Jan. 8, 2009

  • I have told her a bunch of times that i am sorry but I want things to be ok and at least be social for the kids. I am tired of getting dirty looks everytime i see her or get attitude. I think we could be better if she would just give it a shot.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:51 PM on Jan. 8, 2009

  • Talk to them personally and dont get offended when you hear rumors. Ask "how can I prove to you....?" If they wont give it up and wont believe you, just let it go. They are not worth your time.
    LovinEveryDay

    Answer by LovinEveryDay at 4:58 PM on Jan. 8, 2009

  • you can't they usually see it when it's to late.
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 5:08 PM on Jan. 8, 2009

  • Are you a guy asking this question?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:30 PM on Jan. 8, 2009

  • the way i see it is , it could be easy unless the person who is not believing is a weak person who can't think for them selves.  i knew a woman like that and whats worse is that she was a friend a good one until she showed who weak she was by trusting an  antagonizing person with no knowledge of what was going on in the first place

    his4ever05

    Answer by his4ever05 at 5:42 PM on Jan. 8, 2009

  • You really do need to arrange to sit down or talk with that person over the phone about the situation. let them know how you have changed, and why you want to be in their life. You can't force them to see you in a different light, but if you can prove by action that you have changed and extend yourself to them i'm sure that they will eventually come around on there own.
    SylviaNCali

    Answer by SylviaNCali at 6:24 PM on Jan. 8, 2009

  • You can't. Just keep "telling' them by showing them.

    Sometimes you damage things so badly that you'll never be able to fix them. I don't know if that's the case here but if so there is nothing you can do.

    If it's not then eventually they will see your different.
    munch12502

    Answer by munch12502 at 9:48 PM on Jan. 8, 2009

  • You can't just tell it - you have to prove it. Sometimes things just go to far and NOTHING will change it. If you keep trying (arrange a lunch, coffee meeting, leave a note) and show by example, then maybe things can improve. If not, you may have crossed the line one too many times and it's a lost cause. People believe what they see and if they truly think you're going to hurt their kids, you better think of WHY they think that. Is it because you've done something and if you were them, would you think the same after the things that have happened? If that's the case, put yourself in their shoes and approach them how you would want to be approached.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:12 AM on Jan. 9, 2009

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