Answer by asholan_07 at 6:23 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
Answer by TheDiva320 at 6:25 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 7:04 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 7:21 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
It is now considered to be in the best interest of the adoptee to have an open adoption with his birth parents. If your dh's son is having a successful relationship with his birth mother then I think it quite likely that his adoptive parents would be keen on him having a relationship with his birth father. Yes, adoption agencies will ignore requests about reunion, it's very, very common. Try to get them out of your husbands reunion and make direct contact with the family. Maybe birthmom could forward something for him. BTW, I'm very impressed with how cool you are being about this!
Answer by onethentwins at 8:21 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
Is it on record that he is this child's biofather? If he never terminated his parental rights or birthmother did not specifically name him - then they would not know if he this child's father. So I could see how legally an agency could not respond to such a letter in either direction. Also they have to protect the child's privacy. They might not be able to ever acknowledge, due to HIPPA laws, that this child or that family was ever a client. If that child's parents were a client then more than likely that letter would be placed in that child's file. When that child turns of legal age and wants to contact his birthfamily or just wants to uncover the actual documents of his or her adoption - that will be there. When ever you move you can update the agency by sending a letter to be added to the file. Just know that you probably won't recieve any acknowledgment that they received the letter.
Answer by frogdawg at 8:31 PM on Jan. 8, 2009
kelinnh, if the mother has an open adoption- maybe she has their identifying and contact info. could you request that info from her? and, then, perhaps send a short note to the adoptive parents with your contact info- and let them know dh is open to communication- and then let them take the lead?
PortAngeles is right....(that is what they are in business to do) work towards completing an adoption. Post adoption- its my experience that if there are disclosure and reunion laws in place- the agency will be happy to (collect some more Cha-Ching) and orchestrate and oversee and give qualified approval of contact between the parties. IMHO- if its at all possible......don't touch them with 39 and a halfï»¿ foot pole!
Answer by adopteeme at 5:17 AM on Jan. 9, 2009
Answer by adopteeme at 5:29 AM on Jan. 9, 2009
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