he is starting to act mean to me i ask him to do something he tells me shut up you fat lady and has these fits of anger just when i ask for help. Other then that he is a very loving boy and likes to sit and be with me. I get so up set with him when he acts out what can i do??? I have adopted 3 of his other sids but they are not like this. He is not the only one and everyone needs to help around the house. I love him so much this is really hurting me inside.
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 1:05 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
Answer by Bobbysmommy324 at 1:06 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
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Answer by StepmommyRee at 1:21 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
Biological children pull away from mom and dad too. He is preteen and is probably hormonal and acting out. If he continues then get him help. Discipline him consistently. Kids change as they grow up and will test us sounds like that is what he is doing. Do you talk about him being adopted a lot around him? My best friend was adopted and her adoptive mom talked about it all the time. She always called my friend her adopted daughter not just daughter. My friend became resentful and acted out. Might check how you are around them. Maybe he is picking up on something.
Answer by Anonymous at 1:46 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
Answer by bi-polarmommy at 1:52 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
There could be a lot of things going on. It is hard to say from just a blurb. But he does need help. Professional help. Anger is a mask for a deeper meaning. It could be hurt, frustration, fear, confusion, embarrassment - all those get displayed as anger. The key is knowing the source of this anger and working on that. He may not know. Truly some emotions cannot be put into words and some thoughts are so unconscious that he wouldn't be aware of the driving force with out real help. Do not over look the fact too that, as a previous poster said, he may have a chemical imbalance and/or mental health issue. My guess, and I don't know I'm taking a stab at it, is grief and loss mixed with some other factors. At 10 months he would have never remembered his family of origin. cont...
Answer by frogdawg at 2:19 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
cont...Saying those things to you may be his unconscious way of saying, prove to me lady you love me. Then cozies up to you. A need he has for you to keep proving your commitment to him. There is usually not just one thing going on in situations like this but a lot of factors that contribute to the overall health of him and the family. So keep loving him. But do get him the professional help he and your family needs.
Answer by frogdawg at 2:21 PM on Jan. 9, 2009