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Why do men think this?

That just because we are stay at home moms we don't actually do any work? Why can't they understand that keeping up with a crawling infant or a toddler or a preschooler is just as hard or even more than a 9-5?

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tadpole37766

Asked by tadpole37766 at 3:48 PM on Jan. 9, 2009 in Relationships

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  • I dont know why some men do that. Im lucky my dh doesnt do that. He will make comments about he will trade me places then I realize I am the lucky one.
    gemgem

    Answer by gemgem at 3:50 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • sometimes we don't really work that hard on other days we do but some days i don't. worst part is that now my husband actually sees what i do and guess what, its being on here all day.
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 3:51 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • I think they are jealous in some ways. My dh knows how hard I work at home but he points out, "at least you don't have to impress a boss or worry about being laid off these days".
    JustAMom2008

    Answer by JustAMom2008 at 3:56 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • If any ones DH thinks she don't do enough as a stay at home mom/wife. I say just stop cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, ironing for just a couple of days. And when they are home leave the house for the whole day, leave the kids with him. He will find out quick you do have a needed job.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 3:56 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • If he doesn't consider it work then just let him watch the kids whenever he is home from work and you can relax.
    runawaybunny

    Answer by runawaybunny at 4:03 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • my dh did that at first but with my PPD he soon realized that i worked a lot. now he helps out a lot, we have certain days when if we're both home we share responsibilities
    aliciatron

    Answer by aliciatron at 4:04 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • well mine tells me he is sure i work just as hard.but that sometimes is harder for him cause he wishes he was here as much as i am to see the boys more, but the bad thing is when we get into arguments he always brings up the im always at work and you arent.
    rosepetalluv

    Answer by rosepetalluv at 4:12 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • I don't know but I am considering going on strike..we have a 2yr old & 8 mth old....one day he came home from work and I had a headache and wasn't feeling well & he said "I know, you've had such a hard day" & then says something about his day, etc...what he doesn't understand is that our job doesn't end, we don't get to clock out...it's 24/7...
    Jan40

    Answer by Jan40 at 4:35 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • Mine doesn't think this (thank God) he knows what I do is like a job, and its kinda funny too because like a boss when I slack off he lets me know
    hautemama83

    Answer by hautemama83 at 4:53 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • My hubby gets upset if he comes home and the house is mess. But I SWEAR! no matter how much I clean this house within a few hours it will be trashed again. My daughter LOVES to mess up a clean house. But he's great, when he comes home he plays with her so I can have a little time to relax, and on the weekends he helps out with the cleaning =] But :( I'm the only one who cooks.
    SandraB383

    Answer by SandraB383 at 4:59 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

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