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Why do men think this?

That just because we are stay at home moms we don't actually do any work? Why can't they understand that keeping up with a crawling infant or a toddler or a preschooler is just as hard or even more than a 9-5?

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Asked by tadpole37766 at 3:48 PM on Jan. 9, 2009 in Relationships

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  • I dont know why some men do that. Im lucky my dh doesnt do that. He will make comments about he will trade me places then I realize I am the lucky one.

    Answer by gemgem at 3:50 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • sometimes we don't really work that hard on other days we do but some days i don't. worst part is that now my husband actually sees what i do and guess what, its being on here all day.

    Answer by melody77 at 3:51 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • I think they are jealous in some ways. My dh knows how hard I work at home but he points out, "at least you don't have to impress a boss or worry about being laid off these days".

    Answer by JustAMom2008 at 3:56 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • If any ones DH thinks she don't do enough as a stay at home mom/wife. I say just stop cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, ironing for just a couple of days. And when they are home leave the house for the whole day, leave the kids with him. He will find out quick you do have a needed job.

    Answer by louise2 at 3:56 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • If he doesn't consider it work then just let him watch the kids whenever he is home from work and you can relax.

    Answer by runawaybunny at 4:03 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • my dh did that at first but with my PPD he soon realized that i worked a lot. now he helps out a lot, we have certain days when if we're both home we share responsibilities

    Answer by aliciatron at 4:04 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • well mine tells me he is sure i work just as hard.but that sometimes is harder for him cause he wishes he was here as much as i am to see the boys more, but the bad thing is when we get into arguments he always brings up the im always at work and you arent.

    Answer by rosepetalluv at 4:12 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • I don't know but I am considering going on strike..we have a 2yr old & 8 mth day he came home from work and I had a headache and wasn't feeling well & he said "I know, you've had such a hard day" & then says something about his day, etc...what he doesn't understand is that our job doesn't end, we don't get to clock's 24/7...

    Answer by Jan40 at 4:35 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • Mine doesn't think this (thank God) he knows what I do is like a job, and its kinda funny too because like a boss when I slack off he lets me know

    Answer by hautemama83 at 4:53 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • My hubby gets upset if he comes home and the house is mess. But I SWEAR! no matter how much I clean this house within a few hours it will be trashed again. My daughter LOVES to mess up a clean house. But he's great, when he comes home he plays with her so I can have a little time to relax, and on the weekends he helps out with the cleaning =] But :( I'm the only one who cooks.

    Answer by SandraB383 at 4:59 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

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