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DID YOU STAY AFTER YOU WERE CHEATED ON?

DID YOUR SO STRAY AGAIN?
WHAT IF THEY DO IT AGAIN AFTER YOU TAKE THEM BACK?
DID YOUR SO TRY TO GET YOU BACK?
CAN YOU EVER TRUST YOUR SO AGAIN?
HOW DID YOU LET GO OF YOUR SO IF YOU STILL LOVED THEM?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 5:39 PM on Jan. 9, 2009 in Relationships

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Answers (7)
  • When I was the father of my older two, he cheated and no I didn't stay. With my current DH, he's never cheated in eight years but even if he did, no I wouldn't stay. I agree with TheDiva320 in the sense that that if he really loves(d) you, he wouldn't have/be cheating. But at the same time, the saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater" doesn't always apply because some people can actually change. IMO, it's one of those judgement calls and up to you if you think you can get past it and whether or not you believe he'll change. GL and hope this helps some.

    LovingParent08

    Answer by LovingParent08 at 6:26 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • i used to suscribe to a marriage counseling newsletter and in that letter he said that if he cheats once and is caught and he thinks hes going to lose you he has a lesser chance of doing it again, and if you left him and started over you have the same chance of being cheated on again. im not sure if i necessarily believe that but if he REALLY loves and cares for you then he wont take another chance.
    aliciatron

    Answer by aliciatron at 5:42 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • If he REALLY loves and cares for you, he wouldn't cheat in the first place. Period. I've never been cheated on, but it's a huge deal breaker. Not to mention, how can you trust him again...........NOT to cheat. In the back of your mind, you are going to wonder, you might question anything suspicious that he does. Someone random might call and you could jump all over him. Is all that worth it?
    TheDiva320

    Answer by TheDiva320 at 5:45 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • Hell no did I stay...thats the one thing I won't forgive.
    calliesmommie

    Answer by calliesmommie at 7:19 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • yes I stayed for a while. yes he did it again. I ended up divorcing him. yes he tried many times to come back. We tried even after the divorce but I no longer trusted him. Letting go was not easy but it was the right thing to do. It took time but I got on with my life and found another person
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 7:31 PM on Jan. 9, 2009

  • Married for 15 years he cheated I left with 4 kids. Not to me he wont
    JLynn0871

    Answer by JLynn0871 at 7:43 PM on Jan. 9, 2009


  • DID YOU STAY AFTER YOU WERE CHEATED ON? >>>>>>>>>> NO
    DID YOUR SO STRAY AGAIN?>Didn't get the chance.
    WHAT IF THEY DO IT AGAIN AFTER YOU TAKE THEM BACK?>>>>>>>>>>> Not an option
    DID YOUR SO TRY TO GET YOU BACK?>>>>>>>>>>>>YEP
    CAN YOU EVER TRUST YOUR SO AGAIN?>>>>>>>>>>NOPE< NO< HELL NO
    HOW DID YOU LET GO OF YOUR SO IF YOU STILL LOVED THEM?>>>>>>Cuz I love ME.... and I deserve better than to be made to feel insecure because he has a Wandering Willy
    PaceMyself

    Answer by PaceMyself at 8:17 PM on Jan. 9, 2009