It's no secret that I hate my mom. I am gaining a little ground with my dad, so I am glad for that. My dad's sister died on Monday & he is really upset. I talked to my mom tonight & she told me that my dad was flying out 4 the funeral tomorrow. I asked her why she didn't go with & she said (& I quote!): "Well, I don't know anyone & it's not MY family...." after I nearly choked on that comment, she added (again, quoting her here) "I decided to let him go to the funeral when I realized that it's been over 24 yrs since he's seen his family & it's only his brother & niece left now." UGH!! They have been married for 34 years!! Not only is she NOT supporting HIM during this time, but she's acting like she's doing HIM a FAVOR?!? Note: when HER sister & brother died within a couple of months of each other, he WAS GIVEN NO CHOICE! He HAD to go with her to the funerals whether he wanted to or not. Of course HE went to SUPPORT her!
Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 11:23 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
Answer by aliciatron at 10:20 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
Answer by PaceMyself at 10:25 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
That's just it - I was ADOPTED!!! I didn't just happen to them - they picked me!!!
Answer by Babylove76 at 10:28 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
Answer by lisa_ann_p at 10:34 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
lisa_ann_p: Thank you for your reply. This has helped me to calm down. I don't think that you are a b!tch the way that you described it. You offered to go. She (my mom) REFUSED to go and only DECIDED to "let" him go after he pointed out to her that it's been a quarter of a century since he has seen any of his family which, in the meantime, another sister and three brother's have all died and he wasn't "allowed" to go to the funerals. I am glad you said it's probably best she didn't go with him - and I think that you are right. At least he's there and he will be able to spend time with them. Thanks again.
Answer by Babylove76 at 10:39 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
I don't know the reason why your mom feels so uncomfortable going to the funeral. Maybe your dads family never treated your mom kind so she wants nothing to do with them. I feel she still should go and support your dad. My dad and mom are divorced when my mom's dad died, my dad who was never crazy about my moms dad (my grandpa) went to the funeral to support me his daughter.
Answer by mommiedear at 11:15 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
She sounds pretty cold. I have an aunt who was like this, she has always treated my uncle (my mom's brother) family this way. When my grandmother was dying (his mother) we called her the day before so she could let my uncle know. She refused to let him come that day and by the time they got there she was gone. Some people are just this way. It's only important if it pertains to them.
Answer by Austinsmom35 at 11:26 PM on Jan. 9, 2009
Answer by lisa_ann_p at 7:20 AM on Jan. 10, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:34 AM on Jan. 10, 2009