She has financial issuses due to having 2 kids to care for with a jobless, worthless father that wont even watch his own kids if she was to work. Lost their house @ month ago, been staying @ hotel w/ kitchenette. Would take her kids for her , but need a temporary custody paper from her to receive state help with food & childcare. How can I help her?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:26 AM on Jan. 10, 2009 in General Parenting
Answer by LexsiesMommy at 4:26 AM on Jan. 10, 2009
Answer by HNK11 at 6:48 AM on Jan. 10, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 8:31 AM on Jan. 10, 2009
Letting you take the kids for a little while is one thing. Giving you temporary custody by signing a paper is another. At that point, and maybe it really would be better for the children, you would have complete say about when the children can visit, when they can get them back, under what circumstances she can have custody of her children again....at least until she hired an attorney to reverse the temporary custody. You would want to consult an attorney to draw up papers for power of attorney and health care power of attorney for the children. She may be okay with just letting you keep them without the actual signing them into your care. My guess is that by signing she may feel like she is a complete failure of a mother. So go gently. cont..
Answer by frogdawg at 9:44 AM on Jan. 10, 2009
cont..If this were me, and I needed the financial assistance to aid in care for the kids, I would be very truthful - I can't care for them without you signing and I am sorry. Then if she won't, don't take the kids. The deal here is that someone is always there to bail her out when she hits rock bottom. You were and you did bail her out. She doesn't have to cope with her kids and be motivated. So give her some motivation. Tuff love is hard to do. But at some point she has to determine if she is going to be the provider or she has to acknowledge that someone else can be. If she won't acknowledge you legally as the care provider then it really should all fall on her.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:49 AM on Jan. 10, 2009
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