My SO and I are calling it quits. There are so many reasons but some major ones are he allows his 10 yr old son to disrespect and bully EVERYONE in the house including me and he has a horrible temper and I feel like I'm walking through a land mine just trying to keep the peace. We live together and I am a SAHM, he needs to save enough money to get his own place but I'm annoyed that I am expected to take care of his 2 kids and the house while he does not pay any rent, utilities, food ect. so he can "save up". By the way his kids call me mom. Is it wrong to say that I will no longer take care of the 10 yr old? how do I enforce it ? Do I try to demand he pay SOMETHING in the mean time or just cut my losses and hope he gets out quickly? Any advice would be welcome. ThanksAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:28 PM on Jan. 10, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)
Answer by Anonymous at 9:29 PM on Jan. 10, 2009
Answer by Laura1229 at 2:31 AM on Jan. 11, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:39 AM on Jan. 11, 2009
Anon939 said it best. I did the same thing when my DH wasn't doing his share. I flat out told him I was tired of being the bank when they needed, needed and needed, a referee when they fought and maid when NOBODY wanted to pick up their shit and I stopped doing and made him do. And trust me, he changed and so did everything else. Now, when he sees that I'm "TO THAT POINT", he automatically and willingly takes the kids from me for a while to give me some "MOMMY TIME". GL. Hope this helps some!
Answer by LovingParent08 at 5:50 PM on Jan. 11, 2009
Answer by LoriW at 5:50 PM on Jan. 11, 2009
Answer by LoriW at 5:51 PM on Jan. 11, 2009
Oh and I forgot to mention that part of it was me letting my kids know that "Mommy's on break" and to ask daddy!!!!! After sitting down to watch a football game and having to get back up to make meals, stop fights, etc., he had had enough and admitted that my job isn't as easy as he thought it was and started to appreciate me more. And even though I've never been in a situation where he didn't work (because he always has), there were times when he would spend $ on stupid shit instead of asking me what needed paid and how much.
Answer by LovingParent08 at 5:56 PM on Jan. 11, 2009
Answer by feesharose at 6:13 PM on Jan. 11, 2009
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