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Do you have a daughter in sports?

I have a daughter who plays softball-she is 12. She is also a pitcher. She gets stressed when she throws a bad one, and gets really ticked off. Does anyone have a similar situation? How do u deal with it?

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Asked by hw1977 at 11:41 PM on Jan. 10, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • Our daughter was in soccer. Mind you, she was only 5, but she was scared of the ball. We just had to talk to her time and time again that it was part of sports and to deal with it or quit playing.

    Answer by Pnukey at 11:50 PM on Jan. 10, 2009

  • There is a lot of pressure to do well on a team. From the team mates, from the coach, from yourself not to let others down, because people are watching, and even from parents. It doesn't sound like you are one of those parents who like to coach from the sidelines yelling at her when she "messes up." If you haven't already, sit down with her to talk to her about your concerns. Take her to a nice lunch where it is relaxing. Then tell her what your concerns are. To give up something she loves or is good at might be a bit extreme. But let her know that you want to find ways to reduce her stress level. Have her come up with ideas. Also before and after a game make it very low key. I wouldn't put too much emphasis on great plays or not so good ones. The same, "Good game and I liked when __________" each time says you were watching and no matter the outcome there was a highlight for you.


    Answer by frogdawg at 9:54 AM on Jan. 11, 2009

  • cont...There are many athletes who have rituals to relax before and after a game. Maybe to come up with a few. Or even the night before a game. This way to clear the mind and body and mentally get her in good spirits. Something you know is going to calm, relax, or just make her laugh. Hey, some fun jokes that are really corny never hurt either.  If there are other side line parent coaches they sometimes also put pressure, indirectly, on other players.  Speak to the coach about them and what can be done.  Is there a particular child who is very critical of others and their preformance?  Or does most of the team take this seriously?  If the team takes it seriously then you may need to find another team - not to quit playing but just another team more suited.


    Answer by frogdawg at 10:00 AM on Jan. 11, 2009

  • I will find out this year, my youngest is getting ready to start softball.

    Answer by sammiesmom2000 at 10:14 AM on Jan. 11, 2009

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