So, we visit dh's gma and gpa every year for Christmas. Every year for the 3 years we've been married, we have given them a new family photo as a gift because they specifically ask for no gifts since their home"is too small." Anyway, I noticed a while back on this gma's Facebook page, she has an album of pictures of her grandkids, she has updated every time she gets a new pic. I noticed that when she puts dh's picture up, she scans it, and then crops me and our two children out.
Not that THAT is what I'm shocked over, bil is in the middle of a really hairy divorce that he is entirely to blame for (just decided one day he didn't want the responsibility any more, kicked wife and 4 of their 5 kids out.) And this gma has the nerve. She calls dh to let him know when they're doing Christmas, and says, "Well, I need you to call your brother and tell him. And tell him he is welcome to come, but not to bring anybody. We don't want his girlfriend here, do we?"
Of course, dh says, "Yeah, ok." ---couldn't believe his ears either!
This is the same woman that freaked out on me when he and I were engaged and visiting and I was in the shower (long enough to wet my hair and quickly soap off) and I noticed dh had made a couple grilled cheese sandwiches. I know dh likes mayo on his, and he knows I don't. There were two on the plate, so I simply asked him, "which one has mayonaisse?" He said, "oh, shoot. Sorry, babe I forgot-" and in she stormed (heard us thru two walls??) And flung a pan on the stove, and proceeded to throw together a sandwich with no mayo. Of course, she was MORE pissed when he told her I wasn't going to eat that if that's how she was going to serve me lunch, then we packed our things, said our goodbyes to gpa, and left.
The next day, she called him. He answered, expecting an apology. He put her on speaker so I could hear. She starts with: "Don't you marry her, boy. That girl has serious problems." He jutted in, "What's that supposed to mean, gma?" She says, "I'm telling you, don't you marry her." Dh kept asking over and over, "What do you mean?" And "Like what? No, you tell me!" And she never would say. He hung up on her, appalled.
FOUR YEARS LATER.
She is at mil's house (she is deceased fil's mother) to take my nieces and nephew their gifts, and makes grilled cheese. My nephew comments, "Harley (3yr old sister) doesn't like mayo on hers, gma." Gma pops off, "Yeah, well neither does your aunt Bayly, and she ate what I gave her too."
I really don't feel like going there this year. I really don't. But, I'm sure I will suck it up and go, because every year could be the last year his gpa is alive. Dh even said once gpa passes, he won't be going to their Xmas get-togethers. They're always awkward anyway, because we're the only part of that
branch of family that doesn't live within a half-hour drive, and we get stares from most, especially dh's cousins, because we show up and get the same gifts they do and they're there all year. That and last year, we dragged our 4wk old baby out there, and gpa and one sil out of 25+ people are the only two that paid any attention to my children. My 2yo felt awkward, and sat on my lap most of ,the evening when he wasn't sitting on Daddy's. I held the baby most of the time to keep him off the floor...
Do you know anyone like this in your family?
I don't have any on my side, so I'm still pretty new at dealing with this. I already hate it.
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