-update- I did what I always thought was right. I told the truth about the birthfather as soon as I knew who he was. Now I may have screwed our little boy. Turns out he is a life long criminal and drug addict. Now all I can do is wait for the court hearings and how the judge sees what is really best. They don't always. I've always felt the father has a right to know....now I don't know, I think I may have not done what was best ...my ethics may be intact, but what good is that if he goes to this guy. Damn it, I hope the judge is wiser then me.
The birthmom of our son wants us to adopt her newborn son. We are crazy about him, it is a no brainer. She told the social worker and us she did not know who the father was...then she just let it slip to me. I won't lie, I seriously thought about keeping it to myself, but I couldn't. He deserves to know and be vetted like the rest of us. If he doesn't want reunification, I will still be here. I hope if he does he will let the boys have a relationship. If he is with us and wanted to he could still have a relationship with the baby.
I am rambling. I am so sad right now, but I did the right thing, right? It isn't about me, its about the baby and he has a right to be with his father if it can be worked out. I admit it, I am sad for me and my family.
Answer by amandajoy21 at 6:23 PM on Dec. 15, 2011
Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 6:32 PM on Dec. 15, 2011
Your an amazing person for that. Yes you did the right thing. He may not want this child or may not be fit to raise this child. If so you will still have the opportunity to keep him. I hope it works out whatever is best for the child. Im also very sorry that you are going through this. Could you have lived with such a big secret?
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