my DH is 47 and i'm going to be 35 soon.
are we too old to have kids? friends and relatives say, its risky as babies might turn out with disorders due to our 'old' age.
my sis in law freaked out when i told her we were planning to have a baby.
she said babies have higher risk of developing disorders due to our age.
is that true?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:17 PM on Jan. 11, 2009 in Trying to Conceive
You know what... I had my 3rd baby (boy) at 41 and my 4th (girl) at 42 and they are both perfect! yes, statistically the risks do go up, but, that's something you just go into the situation knowing. Both of our "late in life blessings" were surprises... no, make that BIG SURPRISES! But, we're having a blast with them and our 24 yr old daughter & 17 yr old son are absolutely stupid in love with them. They have really livened up our lives and brought back a ton of fun!!! However, on the down side... we will not have an empty nest until we are in our 60's. Sometimes that bothers me, sometimes it doesn't. You just have to think through the pros and cons as they relate to your life, ignore other's comments, then go with your heart!
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Answer by TiccledBlue at 1:32 PM on Jan. 11, 2009
Both of you need to go in and get a full work-up to make sure that you are healthy enough to have a baby. If you are really concerned, maybe go in for genetics counseling as well so you know if there's anything that you need to be concerned about before you TTC. I do not think that your ages are "too old" to have a baby. Men have children well into their 50's. Women though, it's advised to not have children after the age of 40...and you are 5 years below that. Tell your family, thank you for your concern, but we will make our own decisions on this. I'd go for it if you get the all-clear from your doctors. I personally would not have children after 30, but that's only because I wanted to be young when I had mine. Something about still being able to enjoy my life after my children are gone to college. (I am 27 with 2 kids.)
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