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Ok so im seven months pregnant; I have been with my boyfriend for over a year; He has a child with another women [before we dated]; I have no problem with this BTW; The child lives in florida and he got his support papers today; Now i cant stand to see him upset or stressed out; and even though its not about me; I just cant seem to see him upset; But tonight he made a comment saying how he didnt want any kids and now he is stuck paying for two; I felt some type of way over this; I mean, in all honest, he wanted me to get an abortion wen i found out i was pregnant; But i couldnt; so i mean since than he seems he has gained acceptance and is excited about the baby;; i kno he is stressed out with everything; but was there a need to say that? kinda like he is "stuck" with me and our daughter; or i trapped him; He doesnt see the baby in florida.I just dont know how to react to his comment

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 7:54 PM on Jan. 12, 2009 in Relationships

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  • hes just angry, im sure he'll apologize
    aliciatron

    Answer by aliciatron at 7:57 PM on Jan. 12, 2009

  • yeh i kno he is angry and stressed out ; i was going to say something about how i felt about the comment and tlk to him about it but i dnt think im going to ; i guess i just took it to heart ya kno.

    Oh and btw i forgot to add as well that i tlked to his mom about some stuff with the support and how is feeling and that i feel bad seeing him like that ; She caught freakin attitude with me that "me feeling bad that he is upset ; wont change that he has to pay it " i mean i was just confiding in her about feelings and she just got real defensive and gave attitude at everything i said ; i dunno. Maybe im just hormonal from being pregnant or something lol...everything is getting taken to heart tonight....
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:00 PM on Jan. 12, 2009

  • I dunno Id still be kinda mad if my hubby ever said anything like that but thats jus me...
    MiSs.SmOkEy

    Answer by MiSs.SmOkEy at 8:50 PM on Jan. 12, 2009

  • Don't blame yourself. If he never wanted kids he should of gotten a vasectomy years ago. Men always blame women for everything. They're the jerks who put their d. . . in us and then blame us. I can't stand that. They always think they do nothing wrong. I hope all works out for you. God Bless and love your baby to pieces.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:09 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

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