We are considering adoption. We are really having a hard time trying to decide what agency to go with. What kind of questions should we be asking these people? This seems to be a hard process. Not really sure where to start.Answer Question
Answer by SimplyCreative at 10:34 PM on Jan. 12, 2009
Answer by sizesmith at 12:32 AM on Jan. 13, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 12:36 AM on Jan. 13, 2009
Answer by MommyAddie at 3:26 AM on Jan. 13, 2009
We originally chose an agency that I felt comfortable with because I had a friend who worked there. It was an agency that focused on international adoptions only and it had a very good reputation. I knew already a lot about the agency and felt very comfortable with that direction. But one day I was reading a local free parent magazine and instantly I knew what agency I wanted to go with. The entire magazine that month was devoted to adoption and had excellent options available and interviewed families who chose those options. There was an article for every different option available in the discussion. It was awsome. cont...
Answer by frogdawg at 11:25 AM on Jan. 13, 2009
so we went with an organization but it was not an adoption agency. This organization specialized in black, bi-racial, and special needs adoptions. Hard to place children. Most private lawyers and domestic agencies have a ton of clients who are waiting for a healthy white infant. So when they have an expectant mother who is African-American or a birth mother who does not know what the ethnicity of her baby may be (it does happen - no judgments) then they do not have a single couple on their client list willing to be matched. That is where they call this organization for portfolios of perspective adoptive parents. I have to tell you it was overwhelming. From the moment we started this journey we would get 5 or 6 requests a day from lawyers who wanted to meet us on behalf of their client - the expectant mother - and you just can't say yes to everyone.
Answer by frogdawg at 11:39 AM on Jan. 13, 2009
cont..In the end we arrived home with our healthy infant son and he is two now. But I will say originally we were matched with a child who the expectant mother did not know if the child would be bi-racial or not. When the lawyer called he asked what we thought of adopting a white child. To be honest - we never even considered it. So I had to say, Ahhh I'll get back to you. I don't think I'm prejudiced against white babies....but let me ask my husband if he is okay with a white baby. It was a shock. Because the vision we had in our dreams was not what might actually be. So we decided we could do a white baby (we are white). It didn't work out but we have the child that we were meant to raise. He is happy, healthy, and such a cutie pie.
Answer by frogdawg at 11:45 AM on Jan. 13, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 12:44 AM on Jan. 14, 2009