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IS IT ABUSE IF WE ARE NOT MARRIED AND HE KEEPS THREATENING TO KICK ME AND KIDS OUT WHEN HE'S ANGRY HE'S ANGRY? WHEN HE'S NOT ANGRY HE SAYS HE LOVES ME, BUT THEN KEEPS DOING THIS WHEN HE GETS MAD AGAIN. HE SAYS HE IS SORRY WHEN HE'S NOT MAD AND THAT HE IS DEPRESSED, BUT HE KEEPS GIVING EXCUSES WHY HE CAN'T GET HELP (CAN'T AFFORD TO TAKE TIME OFF WORK, TOO EXPENSIVE, ETC). P.S. KIDS AND I HAVE NO WHERE TO GO. NO FRIENDS, FAMILY, ETC.

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:57 AM on Jan. 13, 2009 in Relationships

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  • You don't deserve this type of behavior. Save yourself and your children now. They will love you unconditionally and respect you even more for standing up. Everyone deserves to be happy!!!
    Becky61

    Answer by Becky61 at 10:53 AM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • do you work???? i would find a job and save up so when he does it again i can say no need to bother to kick me out im moving out that might change his mind on the whole thing good luck
    wendy232425

    Answer by wendy232425 at 9:58 AM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • I agree with wendy232425.... but to answer u questions... it dont matter if u all are married, he has to verbal abuse you though and i am not sure if tell you to leave and all that is actual abuse... every state is different. Some states like NJ, CA, NY and a few others you are not aloud to make threats like that and can get into alot of trouble if someone turns you in
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:14 AM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Hey!! We are in the same situation. Name calling is no fun. They are so disrespectful creatures cuz the women of their past let them walk away with it. Now, I have to deal with but I am not going to any longer.
    It is doesnt matter whether you are married or not. He is an abuser and he needs to be put to sleep!!!!!!!

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:33 AM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Loving someone and saying you love someone are two totally different things. I can say that the moon is purple, but that doesn't make the moon purple. Saying you love someone may be a way to manipulate them or to get your way, or you may like having them around for this or that reason. It doesn't appear that he loves you. Talk to a government agency (or to a minister or doctor who could refer you to one) that will help you get job training or help you with a job. You are a strong woman and don't need to be dependent on someone who treats you poorly and with whom you have a miserable life. Good luck!
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 10:44 AM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Abuse can be verbal. Do the kids here what he has to say when he's angry? Please always know that there are people and places that can help you in these types of situations.
    Becky61

    Answer by Becky61 at 10:49 AM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • sounds like verbal and emotional abuse and like everyone else says you need to find a way to get out
    bonnie-jo

    Answer by bonnie-jo at 11:51 AM on Jan. 13, 2009

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