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Ok, Advice Question...only for open-minded people. If you can't say anything nice, please don't say anything at all...

Hey ladies. Well, I have a 1 yr old little girl with my ex-husband. I am in a relationship with a woman now, with someone I have known for almost 6 years. We live together with my daughter, and the 3 of us have created a wonderful family. It's a very loving household, and my daughter is very happy and excelling well. She has regular visitation with her father too and sees my family and his family every month, so it's not anything like we are keeping her from anyone. I just wanted to give a backround.

My question is not a serious one, just more of a matter of opinion. I am not sure what to have my daughter call my partner. Calling her by her name seems impersonal to me, since this person is a direct care-taker and will be for the rest of her life. So essentially she is like a parent to my daughter as well. My daughter seems to love her very much and my partner loves my daughter as if she was her own.

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 1:50 PM on Jan. 13, 2009 in Relationships

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Answers (15)
  • Please allow your daughter to decide....if she feels in her heart one day, that she wishes to call her mommy, then allow it, but do not make this an issue...sometimes we obcess over things that our children have no qualms with. Children are ever so wise, especially when coming from the heart....
    ceejay1

    Answer by ceejay1 at 2:19 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Can she call her mommy? If she is acting as a second mother why not.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:52 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • What about Momma (you) and Momma Whosits (her)?
    Wimsey

    Answer by Wimsey at 1:56 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • 2 mommies might get confusing though, my friend growing up called her step mom sunshine or shine for short as a loving nick name
    busygirl247

    Answer by busygirl247 at 1:58 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Mama-Name, (like Mama Kate); One of you can be Mom/Mame and one Mommy; Mimi, etc. Just come up with something both you and your partner are comfortable with.
    Kimebs

    Answer by Kimebs at 1:59 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • While I understand your feelings on her name is just impersonal, I wouldn't push the issue let your daughter decide, granted she maybe a lil young to decide yet but I really just think since she (your partner) isn't mommy or daddy, it should be her (your daughters) choice to pick a name, I made this mistake with my daughter and my ex-husband, she called him dad all the time well now that we are no longer married and he wants NOTHING to do with her, she doesn't understand why and thinks that he hates her, she knows its not her bio father (who she doesn't know) but to her it was the only "dad" she has ever known
    hautemama83

    Answer by hautemama83 at 1:59 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Maybe Mommy(insert her first name - like MommyBeth or MommyPat)? Or maybe another word for Mommy, like MiMi or Mimsy or MeeMo. I don't know. LOL Those sounded kinda stupid. I'm trying to help.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:59 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Mommy or momma or ask her what she would like to call her. Maybe she'll come up with something you didn't think of
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:59 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Well I am just trying to figure something out so if my partner is calling my daughter I can say something like "Go to mommy" or something like that....I know her father refers to me as "mommy" and everyone else seems to as well......We try to call her (my partner) "mama" and me "mommy" but that gets confusing to my daughter I think. I think another cute little nick-name like "busygirl" suggested may be a good idea, once she starts talking more. :-) Thanks everyone for your opinions, I appreciate it!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:03 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • I'm not sure what I'd do either, because as your child gets older, she'll shorten Mommy/Mama to Mom, then when she's mad call you Mother if she's like mine lol
    I kinda like the Mimi thing tho pronounced like me me. I'd ask your partner what she thinks a good name would be, what she'd want to be called whether it's mama anda then her name to something completely different.
    lisa_ann_p

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 2:10 PM on Jan. 13, 2009