My boyfriend wants to be my sons father and take care of me and my son but I'm not gonna fully rely on him but then my sons father wants to be involved now. My boyfriend has been there for us more than his father ever was. My son is a year old and I don't want to confuse him by having two different men in his life. HELP!!!!Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:22 PM on Jan. 13, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by nicholeluvslucy at 2:29 PM on Jan. 13, 2009
When you say BF wants to be involved "now", how do you mean? Does he want visitation? Is he willing to pay CS? If so, then I would try it for a while and see if he can prove to be trusted as a positive and responsible father. If it doesn't work out and he starts messing up, I would go through the courts and see what they can do. I've been in this situation with the BF of my older two. He was in my son's life for about 2 years & never in my daughter's. My SO & I have been together for 8 yrs. and in that time, BF has seen themÂ MAYBE 10 times (honestly and literally). They've called my SO dad for the past 6 1/2 yrs. even though they know their BF. MO, it does more harm than good when the BF is in & out of their life b/c children need stability and consistency. I would talk to SO and see where he stands and go from there. GL and hope this helps some.
Answer by LovingParent08 at 3:36 PM on Jan. 13, 2009
Answer by morekids226 at 8:47 PM on Jan. 13, 2009