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should i stay with my abusive husband for the kids sake?

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:28 PM on Jan. 13, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Why would you want to expose your kids to that? Come on now. Think.

    Answer by babycakes254 at 6:29 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Stay married to him, I'd say yes, get him put in jail to give him some time away from you and the kids, yes, visit him with the kids while he's in jail, yes, it may be just the wake-up call he needs!

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:29 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • studies have shown that little girls who grow up watching dads beat up moms grow up to find a husband who beats them up, and that little boys will follow the example of the dads and grow up to beat up thier wives. It that the standard you want to set for your children?

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:31 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • never

    Answer by aliciatron at 6:31 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Why would you even ask that? Isn't the answer obvious?

    Answer by ReneeK3 at 6:31 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Uhn no? Youre teaching your sons abusing women is ok and that it is ok to be disrespectful to you and other women. Youre teaching your dd that it is ok to be abused. Its a cycle that has to be broken. Kids want their parents happy and usually know when they arent. Not to mention if the police are ever called and hes in the home you lose your kids.

    Answer by gemgem at 6:33 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Heck no, that is not worth it and not only that you are not just damaging your self but you are hurting the children as well. Kids learn from what they see, and if they see violence then they think that is normal. You need to seek help, go to a battered women shelter and ask for HELP! Not only are you cheating your self of a normal happy life, but you are doing the same for your kids. If he cared about you and the kids he wouldn't be abusive. You deserve a man that will love you unconditionally and respect you for the woman you are, so GET OUT AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE!

    Answer by SimplyCreative at 6:35 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Of course you should stay with him! It's not a big issue that you get abused or that your kids see you get abused and grow up in that environment. It IS an issue that you would be so selfish to leave him over THAT. not..

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:36 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • Absolutely NOT! Not only are you selling yourself short and hindering YOUR chances of being happy, but you are teaching your kids that it's ok to abuse or be abuse. Not to mention the emotion turmoil they are in watching you go thru this.

    Answer by TheDiva320 at 6:38 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

  • I do have a question....Is your husband verbally abusive or physcially abusive to you or perhaps even both?? And is he abusive to your children?? Not knowing you...I would have to say you haven't done anything to justify him treating you this way. Have you attempted talking with him and seeking out counseling?? Is he willing?? I say you need to do whatever possible to protect yourself and your children.

    Answer by heavenschild99 at 6:40 PM on Jan. 13, 2009

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