My DD is 7 years old, adopted at birth. When she was adopted we lived 1 state away from
her birthfamily. We now live 7 states away. I am intouch with the birthfather. The birthmother is always on the move and maybe once a year she will call me. Her # has changed about 8 times since the birth of my daughter.
My daughter has PDD (mild from of autism). She is on a routine. She was afraid of loud noises for years. The list goes on. When anyone leaves she will tell you that she misses them.
She knows all about her birthfamily and her half brothers and half sister. She tells me that she misses them. I aksed her if she would like to go see them, and she says yes.
My ? lies here....I want to take her to see them. Her father (we are divorced) doesn't agree nor does
I want to go speak to a child specialist, someone with knowledge of adoptees.
Her father says she is too young that she says she misses everyone. He feels that she will get confused even though she knows all about her birthfamily.
What do you all think? I would like to here from birthmothers, adoptedmothers and adoptees.
If you have no experience in adoption please don't reply.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:44 PM on Jan. 9, 2012 in Adoption
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 10:50 PM on Jan. 9, 2012
Answer by sarasmommy777 at 11:24 PM on Jan. 9, 2012
This is especially tough to answer because every situation is completely unique. I think you know her best and you can make the right decision for her. Don't let anyone else make you feel like you are making the wrong decision. The truth is, nobody knows for sure. Just do what you feel will work. I gave a child up for adoption when I was 17 and I don't expect to have any contact with her until she is on her own; assuming she is curious about me. I was also adopted, but by my grandparents. I knew my mother and saw her sporadically. It was not healthy for me. She was a drug addict, in and out of jail and only bothered to contact when in jail. If she were stable, I could see how it would have been healthy. Again, each situation is unique to those involved. Go with your gut.
Answer by banana-bear at 12:29 AM on Jan. 10, 2012
Answer by ceejay1 at 8:01 AM on Jan. 10, 2012
Answer by confused969 at 1:45 PM on Jan. 11, 2012