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Ok so a little background..I'm 21 with a 5 year old daughter (yup. had her when I was 16...)
I've been in the Army 3 years, and have heard everything from praise to speculation to out right disrespect and criticism. I dont socialize with a lot of army wives due to the fact that when I have, I'm their friend at first but that I'm considered a threat or the female who is sleeping with everyone ( Because I am in "shape" and considered "hot") and soon there after I find myself isolated and am told how horrible of a mother I am for leaving my child to deploy...
I just would honestly love everyone's honest opinion. If your for moms being in the service or not? Does this make me a bad mother? In my eyes no, I'm serving my country, I have medical, dental, a stable paycheck and surprisingly an amazing support system. I love my job and I love my family. I don't down the stay at home mothers, I give you all props because I don't have that patience or strength to do that. But I am proud of who I am..Even with the confidence I have, having people you consider friends and CLOSE friends say those things..over time it puts thoughts in the back of your head..
ANYWAYS lol I just want to know other moms opinion..
I wanted to join the military and I did but there were some paperwork problems and I had to wait. I had planned on going into the military when my husband was deployed but I got pregnant. At this point, I will not join active duty. I had planned on joining the reserves when my son was older but they have dropped the age back down to 35, so I probably will never get the chance, but that's okay. For me personally, I don't think I would make a good solider because I would miss my son too much. However, that is just me and my beliefs for myself. I don't look down on any mom who is in the military. As far as the other wives who turn their backs on you, they are just jealous. I hope that you are able to find some friends.
Answer by JeremysMom at 8:53 PM on Jan. 12, 2012
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Answer by mamide02ninas at 9:31 PM on Jan. 12, 2012
Thank you for your service !! :-) Dealing with jealousy can bite. Just keep on doing what makes you happy and don't worry about it. I can imagine how frustrating it is. We all need friends and when you are in shape and hot, some women are totally threatened. Eventually you will meet a secure woman and will make good friends. Don't let the "other" ones affect you at all. Life is short. When you meet the right guy it will make things easier for you. Until then hang in there. You are NOT a bad mom. You are setting a great role model for your daughter. Everyone has their own opinions, just listen to yours and ignore the others.. Thanks again !
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