My son is kinda out of control. He's all over the place into everything and constantly finding himself in time out. He won't listen and or do anything I ask him to do unless I yell at him (which I hate) but I don't know how else to get his attention. He runs off, he hits his sister, he hurts the dog, he does all the things he knows he not suppose to do intentionally. He won't sit still in church, class or anywhere he's suppose to, unless he's strapped down. He can concentrate on things and I sing a lot becuase I find it gets his attention but I'm just out of ideas. I'm so frustrated and I'm totally loosing it. I feel like I can't go anywhere and staying home cooped up I feel only makes it worse. I don't know what to do. Does anyone have some suggestions?
I can say one of two things. The first (and you probably hear this a lot here) is that it could be normal and you just need to fine tune your parenting techniques. The second is that you could really be seeing signs of a child who is more "spirited" than other children his age. OR it could be a little bit of both one and two. I have worked with hundreds of children who's parents came to see me for assistance. What they usually would say is that they KNEW and could see it even when their child was an infant/toddler. All I can say is hind sight is the only 20/20 vision. So here is my suggestion: see a pediatric behaviorist. It is a special type of medical doctor who specializes in children AND developmental knowledge about behaviors AND how to help the parents and assist the children. Ask your doctor for a referral.
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cont...In the mean time - keep singing. You have now one 'trick" or as we call them in the professional world "techniques" that you know works most of the time. Now experiment. I also like whispering to get attention: pretend it is some secret. Kids love a secret. Make things a game, use funny voices, pretend you are animals...ect. I like the animal technique. You be a loud lion and walk around all like a lion. Then a quick animal, then a loud animal, and close with a quiet animal. This is a really good exercise I used with children who were living with ADHD. Oh, and I personally think 3 is too young to decide something like that. BUT like I said many parents say they KNEW their child was __________ when they were younger.
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