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What is the process of adoption?

My husband and I have talked on and off about adoption and he said that he is definately willing to try. The problem is when he was younger (he'll be 32 this summer) 19-20 he was into things and has a record. Nothing violent nothing involving children. Also too, when he was with his ex...her oldest daughter (not his) got really pissed off at him and was banging on the window screaming that he was hitting her, and a neighbor called child services. No charges were filed and even during the interview process the daughter took back what she said. she didn't realize

So with all this....do we have a chance at adopting. The two of us really want to expand our family, and we have talked about having 1 more biologically and trying to adopt.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:24 AM on Jan. 15, 2009 in Adoption

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  • It depends on what offenses are on his record. You can call any agency in your state and find out if it would disqualify you for adoption. The most important thing is sharing his record (what will come up on his criminal background check and CSB reports) with the agency before you start the process. People are sometimes disqualified for not sharing the offenses.
    luckyshamrock

    Answer by luckyshamrock at 9:55 AM on Jan. 15, 2009

  • It may depend on your state. In WI, we have to be homestudy approved and licensed as foster parents, the background checks, etc were fairly extensive. I know we had to list everything, including speeding tickets, etc for them to review. It seems it is more about the total picture of the couple, but I would call and ask questions before proceeding.
    muptgirl

    Answer by muptgirl at 10:41 AM on Jan. 15, 2009

  • It depends on the agency - they don't have to accept you as a client. They have an obligation to the unborn child and to the expectant birthparents. But mostly it depends on the actual convictions and what they were. If someone recanted it does not actually count. If he does not have a police record then it doesn't show up on your run of the mill background checks. But I do know that if you wanted to go through social services that they do look at the conviction and they look at what is taking place in your life currently. Say you have a DUI. If time has passed (I won't lie, A LOT of time), you can explain it to the case worker's satisfaction, you admit you are AA - that doesn't exclude you from adopting through the state. It has been my personal experience that private agencies would not necessarily be so hip to work with families with a history. Social services is a little more flexible - depends on the situation.

    frogdawg

    Answer by frogdawg at 12:14 PM on Jan. 15, 2009

  • cont...speeding tickets and such show up as a conviction. You were convicted of speeding. But again, if you don't have a chronic problem with speeding and have not had a ticket in a while then you are set. Mainly they will sit down with you and determine if they want to take the chance. And it is a risk. They, the agency and the individual case worker, is liable and is obligated to make sure that this home placement is secure. It is a huge risk for them.

    frogdawg

    Answer by frogdawg at 12:16 PM on Jan. 15, 2009

  • Our attorney told us the CRIMINAL record is what they were looking for. Speeding tickets, traffic tickets, etc didn't count as a criminal offense.
    babycakes254

    Answer by babycakes254 at 1:10 PM on Jan. 15, 2009

  • speeding tickets are not typically considered unless there were some insane amount, or other charges that accompanied the speeding
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:31 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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