How to handle a bully?

My fraternal twin sons (12 1/2 yrs old) ride the bus every day. Well, this morning one of them tells me that the previous day after he got off the bus across the street and was talking to a neighbor boy, this girl of same age KICKED him in the back and yelled "GO HOME!!". I saw red when he told me this this morning. I asked him if he wants me to report her to the school as a bully and he said no because he said that if he does that then everyone will call him a snitch. So I told him to pay attention to where she is when she gets off the bus and that if she starts to kick him to grab her leg and push her back so she falls on her butt. He has concerns because her Grandma is crazy but I told him not to worry - I will handle her if she comes over to say something about it. What would you do if you were faced with this?

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Asked by Kerrigan357 at 10:17 AM on Jan. 24, 2012 in Tweens (9-12)

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i would contact the school and have them be aware of this.

Answer by dullscissors at 10:19 AM on Jan. 24, 2012
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I would make the school aware of the situation and the fact your son does not want to be a snitch. They have ways to handle it without saying a child told on the other. I dealt with this awhile back (several years my boys are grown now) and they never knew I was the one who called. The school stated to the girl and her family that another child's parent witnessed it and called out of concern. They brought my son and the other boy (in our case) and my son felt able to say what happened because he did not tell on the other child, and the other child was mad at this mysterious other parent.

Answer by gemgem at 10:20 AM on Jan. 24, 2012
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err sorry to the other boy and his family not girl - was thinking about your situation. In our case it was a boy bully.

Answer by gemgem at 10:21 AM on Jan. 24, 2012
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Silence breeds violence. You need to teach your son that its not snitching its reporting mistreatment. Kids who fall for this scare tactic suffer more.

Answer by Farrahann at 10:43 AM on Jan. 24, 2012
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I would call the school if it happens again. I would NOT tell him to touch her in any way or show aggression towards her. Even though she is a bully, she is still a female & that sends a bad message to him about how to treat women. No one should be aggressive towards anyone. Let the School handle it. Meet him when he comes off the bus for a while too.

Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 10:47 AM on Jan. 24, 2012
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Oh please schools claim to be anti bully but they aren't, my sons blly was a girl to and you bet after months of bs and schools not doing anything I told him to crack her back. At some point regardless of sex you can't expect your kid to keep being a punching bag. Op, just call the school make them aware anyways just tell them you feel there is a possible problem or if you are feling foggy wait for him to get off he bus n watch for a few days, no one can say anything o you about it.

Answer by Mrs_Harsh at 11:31 AM on Jan. 24, 2012
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I guess I'd bully a bully. No one ever bothered me - I'm small but mighty.

Answer by tasches at 6:11 PM on Jan. 25, 2012
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I would talk with your nephews parents and let them know what he told you. Unless you have guardianship you really cant do anything.

Answer by celticwych at 7:43 AM on Jan. 26, 2012
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contact the school; talk to the parents and talk to the bus driver; our school has a no bullying policy and if anyone is being bullied they are encouraged to let an adult know

Answer by Christmaslver68 at 9:47 AM on Jan. 26, 2012
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