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Do you think moms are constantly faced with ridicule?
I'm talking about the goddamn ridicule we face for decisions we make!!! It doesn't seem to matter what kind of decisions we make for our children, there's always someone (usually OTHER MOMS) waiting in the rafters to spew out their judgements on us. If we keep them home schooled we're called overbearring. If we let them play in the yard without supervision we're irresponsible. If we breastfeed we're seen as perverts. If we bottle feed we're seen as un-caring for our baby's health. If we spank we're abusive. If we don't spank we're push-over parents. If we stay at home we're lazy. If we work we don't care enough about our children to wanna stay home and take care of them. If we feed them certain food we're bad moms. If put them on a diet we're bad moms. WHEN DOES IT EVER F-ING END!?!!?!? This is the reason I don't like meeting OTHER MOMS. Because opinions on how to raise kids clash with other opinions and it's never just accepted. Someone is always going tot ry and force their parenting views down someone else's throat. I love my kids but I hate the moms that sit there and judge other moms! Or just people in general who sit there and judge. Mothers face the most ridicule, it's ridiculous!
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Asked by Anonymous at 8:30 PM on Jan. 27, 2012 in Parenting Debate
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Well then you're in the wrong place being here! LOLFound an answer to your question?
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:39 PM on Jan. 27, 2012
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I know. I knew what I was doing posting this. i'm not an idiot.
Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 8:41 PM on Jan. 27, 2012
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There was a time that I would have agreed with you. I don't know if it is being growing older or me making mistakes with my son and learning and growing from them. Maybe both. If someone is feeling ridiculed (especially online from a stranger), then they are bringing it on themselves. Everyone has opinions and everyone raises their child as they see fit. For example, almost every Friday night my MIL watches my son. She picks him up from school and we pick him up the next morning/afternoon. For me, it is a nice break and my husband and I get to have a date night on the Fridays that he doesn't work. Some moms would not agree with this at all. That's fine. I am comfortable in admitting that for my family and I, this works out great for us. If someone gets upset about how I am "abandoning my son" that's their issue not mine.
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Everyone has their own way to live life. I don't think that just because someone does something different than you they are ridiculing your choices. Judging others happens in real life, but beware.......It happens alot more here on CM, and since you have the power already to go anon...you already know this.
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Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:49 PM on Jan. 27, 2012
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no, i don't. wanna know why? because i know i am a good mother, i know i am a good person. what others think of me doesn't amount to a little pile of dust in someone else's corner of the world. i couldn't care less if you bf your child til they got their driver's license, ate only organic shit and never used anything plastic to store your homeschooling magazines in...i couldn't care less if you don't recycle your newspapers, or if you even read the newspapers.
if someone sits around and judges me for my parenting choices, they got a long time to wait for me to care that they wasted their time.Found an answer to your question?
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JeremysMom....that's nice that your MIL watches your child Friday nights. It's great for you to relax and it's great for their relationship as well. My mil used to take my daughter every Friday night as well, but now they only take her every few months....terrible 3s...lol. In fact, she's there right now. OP, you're right and the most ridicule you will ever see will be here on CM. In real life, I've never had an issue. My friend's come to me with questions, because their children are younger. I give advice when asked, but I don't pass judgment and if they choose to do something different...well they do. I think it's about surrounding yourself with the right people....no negative nannies.Found an answer to your question?
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I agree that moms are quick to judge other moms, but do I care? No, I just let it roll off my shoulders because I know that I am a good mom even if they don't agree with my decisions regarding my children. Why do you care what random women think of you and your choices?Found an answer to your question?
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Women in general are judged harsher then men. If she decides not to have kids she's cold and not maternal. Missing something. If she marries and wants a divorce she's a quitter or selfish for not trying to work it out for the kids' sake. If her child is sick, it's her fault. If the child is failing in school, well mom is to blame because she works. If she has one child she's selfish for wanting only one. If she has three then she's over populating the world and using up all our resources. If she yells she is abusive if she does not spank she's raising a criminal. It's a wonder any woman doesn't retreat and raise the white flag in surrender. It doesn't concern me what others think too much of my parenting. I have good friends where we give feedback. I have my spouse who is my true partner in life. I also have this spectacular child who let's me know how I'm doing. At the end of the day I have what opinions I need.Found an answer to your question?
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