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I kind of feel mean. The family that lives next door doesn't have much. They have a little boy who turned nine today. I've known them for a year and a half. Every special occasion he comes over and tells me. Christmas is coming would you buy me a bicycle, My birthday is coming would you buy me a Nintendo DS, sometimes I think the mom sends him over to ask for things. I know they think we have a lot of money and compared to them, we probably do, but we really don't.
I usually do buy gifts for him, but I spend what I can afford, usually about $20. I had forgotten that his birthday was this week, (mind you, we aren't actually friends we barely know each other) and I've been without a car lately. We only have one car, and my husband's shift changed so he is no longer able to vanpool, and I don't have a car (as I said, we don't really have a lot of money. So I didn't have a birthday gift.
So the doorbell rang a little while ago, and it was the little boy. He said, " it's my birthday" . I said, "Happy Birthday." He said "Did you buy me a present." I said "I'm sorry I didn't." He then said. "You should buy me a present you know." I guess I was a little frustrated at this point, because I said "You know it isn't nice to ask people to buy you presents."
I thought he was going to cry. This isn't a small child, like I said he's 9.
Now I feel really bad, but he constantly asks for things inappropriately. His mother is sometimes there, other times I think she sends him to ask. I'll probably go buy him a gift, but I still feel bad.
Should I just have kept my mouth shut and told him I'd get him a gift when I had an opportunity to shop?
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