Just love them as they were your own they will appreciate you later. And if the bm tries anything just kill her with kindness don't ever let her see you sweat.
Your SO/Dh will love you for it for being the good mom that she wasn't so just do what you would do for your own kids. Be the better person.
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 11:43 AM on Jan. 16, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 11:56 AM on Jan. 16, 2009
A step-parent can reprimand not discipline. I would personally take offence if my ex's gf disciplined my kids.I never gave her that right. I agree she can correct bad behavior by speaking to them , but when it comes to discipline the parents are still there to intervene. parents need to be clear with their kids on what is and isn't acceptable behavior and need to take appropriate measures to insure that behavior.
Answer by BooBear666 at 12:11 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
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Answer by micrespo at 1:12 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
I agree with the poster who said that step-parents should not be disciplining. While children do not tell their parents what to do (i.e. your daughter should not be forbidding you to be happy and marry a man that you love), you shouldn't be introducing a new authority figure into their lives. How infuriated would you be if all of a sudden your parent said "this person is now allowed to boss you around and punish you because I say so." How powerless and frustrated would you be as a kid? Discipline and correction will always come best from the parent.
Answer by NovemberLove at 1:37 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
My step son has lived with us since he was 3 1/2 he is now 11. If I was in the position I would never allow anyone to correct my children. I would tell them to call me and my Childs father would address it. We tried this and my step son Bm does not do a thing. He ran away from her house on her weekend and was not corrected at all he was 6 at the time. I correct he lives our home an he will follow the same rules mine have to . I am not a nanny I have 4 kids including my step one on the way. BM gave them up for her to live her life we confront her with a problem she just says let him come live with me. Before my hubby I got married we knew were we stood on discipline. I do everything for all my kids I do everything for my step son who I fell is like my own I bring him to all his practices anything an everything. My kids don't an will never think I like him more because I can't correct him for the things he does. GOOD LUCK.
Answer by laralizbeth81 at 10:53 PM on Feb. 13, 2009
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