Would you let your 13 yr old daughter have a sleep over with a boy?

Apparently my SD mom has been letting her sleep over at her boy friends houses. (not actual boyfriends, but just friends that are boys) This really rubs her dad and I wrong, but apparently it's happened a few times before we even found out. When SD told us and we were upset she smirks and proudly says, "I've slept over at boys houses a few times." (she is supposedly, hopefully, sleeping in separate rooms) Most of me is ticked. But a part of me says, OK, there is some grey area here because if she had a brother who was close in age, like i did, there would be occasions where her brother may have a friend spend the night, or even her girl friends could have brothers, and then there is a similar situation. But it just seems weird to me. Even if my brother had boys over to spend the night, it never crossed my mind to invite one of my guy friends over, it was just accepted as a no-no.
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Asked by earthmama727 at 4:55 PM on Feb. 4, 2012 in Teens (13-17)

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That is asking for trouble........

Answer by older at 4:57 PM on Feb. 4, 2012
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Thats our feeling, but we're also perplexed, like WTF is her mom thinking???

Comment by earthmama727 (original poster) at 4:59 PM on Feb. 4, 2012
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I wouldn't allow it, it is weird, also on the boys parents part too. They allow the girl to sleep over, which would not be allowed. It's like inviting curiosity in an saying hay your a boy going thru puberty, and your a girl going thru puberty so lets all have a sleep over....never would happen....

Answer by sheloveearth at 5:00 PM on Feb. 4, 2012
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No way!!!!!!

Answer by minimo77 at 5:15 PM on Feb. 4, 2012
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There really is no grey area here. Yes, it's true she could be at a girl's house whose brother is close in age or have a brother whose close in age have a friend stay over at their house.....but really isn't the same thing. It's like comparing apples and oranges. There is no way I would let my child stay at opposite sex friend's house at ANY age.

Now if daughter stayed at her friend's house and she had a brother close in age, I would okay with my daughter spending the night. She isn't there to hang out all night with the brother. She's there to hang out her friend and I would be hopeful that if the friend's brother and my daughter seem very "close" that the mom would say something to me.

Answer by SAHMinIL2 at 6:42 PM on Feb. 4, 2012
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I really want to say no but my 13 ds stays at my bff in ohios house when he goes out for xtended visits with my parents. They were born four days apart and are very close like brothers and sister. They have been doing this their entire life. So to me and knowing the relationship between them I am ok with it.

Answer by Mrs_Harsh at 6:57 PM on Feb. 4, 2012
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I wouldn't.

Answer by meooma at 7:45 PM on Feb. 4, 2012
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Never ever!

Answer by JackieGirl007 at 10:19 PM on Feb. 6, 2012
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I have to admit I didn't know what to think. What has me most concerend is the "smirking" about it. I could see if you knew the other parents well and the sleeping arrangements/supervision were discussed ahead of time. I could also see if it were New Year's Eve becasue you don't want them on the road late at night or an event that ended really late at night or possibly a long distance relationship and the "surpervision" applied.

Answer by 98mom04 at 10:42 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
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Sounds like it's opening the door for temptation. Since you are not there to monitor what is going on...it would probably be best if she doesn't do it anymore. I know it's kindof out of your hands, though. Good luck.

Answer by Ruthmom802 at 9:15 PM on Feb. 9, 2012
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