I am the SM of an 11yr. old SD whose BM is not stepping up to the plate teaching her the things a tween girl to should know. She sets very low standards, and builds no self esteem. My DH and I have been awarded 50-50 custody and we now see much more. My SD comes back to our house having not taken a bath in days. Her homework not done because her BM won't sit down and help her. Her hair completely damages and uncombed. We have had many conversations with the BM to try to get her to stop seeing her DD as a baby and talk to her. Her only answers are don't tell me how to raise my child. My DH asked me to show her because he wants a positive roll model to teach his DD since his BM won't. I am not trying to step on the BM toes however, she will not go in public with us deshevled, and with spending more time with her I am teacher her to be a lady, and how to be organized. Am I wrong for this?Answer Question
Answer by evwsquared at 5:04 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
Answer by Amanduhpanda at 5:05 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
Answer by mommomnaynay at 5:15 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
Well just hang in there I know exactly what you are talking about I remember when my skids were little my ss would come over with long dirty nails and of course I would trim them. And my sd she always had her hair down I always tried to have it nicely fixed when asked why the bm doesn't do this for her she said it was not her expertise. Anyway as time went on she (bm) later send me a nice card saying thank you for taking good care of my kids just like me you are a good mother too. I only did what I would do if they were my flesh and blood I love them like they are. Now they are teenagers and come by whenever but they do remember what IÂ (we) did for them. So just do what your heart desires for them and it will all pay off in the long run.
Some mom's don't know how to be like some other mom's it comes natural to some of us.
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 5:50 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
Answer by tropicalmama at 5:59 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
No, in fact I think she's lucky to have a SM who cares as much as you do.Kudos to you! I agree with 559 that as long as you're not bad mouthing her BM, I see no problem with it. GL.
Answer by LovingParent08 at 6:07 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
Answer by JPsMommy605 at 7:05 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
Answer by Lacis_mommy at 7:40 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
Answer by Knightquester at 8:05 PM on Jan. 16, 2009
Answer by soldiermom1986 at 8:39 PM on Jan. 16, 2009