Feelings hurt a lil bit...

my son just called me from school asking me if his dad could pick him up. I told him that he texted me earlier in the day saying he was sick and that he wouldn't be able to pick him up. So I asked him if he wanted me to come get him and he was like, "I wanna be with my friends!!"

Wow, that hurt. It's like, Ok dad can get him, but when it comes to me he doesn't want me to get him.

guess this is what it feels like for your child to not want you to be around.

have you ever had that feeling??

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Asked by goofygalno1 at 4:45 PM on Feb. 6, 2012 in Tweens (9-12)

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nope not yet, but I'm sure it will come at some point. I guess I'm kind of prepared for this, its normal so I am hoping I won't take it too persoanlly.

Answer by choco_mom at 4:47 PM on Feb. 6, 2012
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My DD's are grown and do not want to have anything to do with me. I know how you feel.

Answer by louise2 at 4:48 PM on Feb. 6, 2012
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One time I was walking into the school building to got to a PTO meeting and DD actually asked me to climb in through the window so her friends wouldn't see me on campus. She was in the 5th grade. I told her to be grateful to have a mother who cared enough to see that her school got the cool activities that PTO raised money and paid for.

It's hard when they are mean when asserting their independence. I also try to remind myself that she is far more normal of a pre-teen that her older brother who is more a loner and couldn't be bothered if I'm around or not, so I should be grateful. It still stings.

Answer by balagan_imma at 4:50 PM on Feb. 6, 2012
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I think the thing that hurts the most is that his dad hasn't been around for almost 6 months...brought him a gift for xmas and now he's all high n mighty again. just makes me feel like crap that he holds his dad up on this pedestal and that man does nothing for him. I do it all and get the shaft all the time. I know I shouldn't take it so personally, but my goodness it's like I don't even matter to him at all.

Comment by goofygalno1 (original poster) at 4:58 PM on Feb. 6, 2012
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It's normal for kids to not always treat the ones they love the most the best they can. Take it as a sign that your son feels loved and confortable enough in the relationship you have together to push you away while knowing you won't ever go very far.

Answer by Ginger0104 at 5:04 PM on Feb. 6, 2012
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NO, NOT YET.....OUCH
Hang in there....

Answer by sarasmommy777 at 5:13 PM on Feb. 6, 2012
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He's his dad, but yes I know how it is. My ex is the same way - gets all kinds of respect from my 6th grade son even though he treats everyone around him like crap, I'm the one who does everything for him and I think he would rather his friends believe he was hatched from an egg!

Answer by missanc at 9:28 PM on Feb. 6, 2012
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I am willing to be he's not really sick and he thinks if he goes to dad's house he will get to do fun stuff and you, being the responsible parent, make him rest if he is sick. He will see soon how your ex is, they always do. Until then, just understand, it's not because you are a bad mother or that he doesn't love you, it's that dad is fun because he is irresponsible. Trust me, the first time dad's irresponsibility hurts him personally (forgets about something your son really wanted to do) your son will see how he is.

Answer by JLS2388 at 4:17 AM on Feb. 7, 2012
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