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I am wondering, Did the adoption process take a toll on your marriage?
For my husband and myself, it has... A 3 year process... From signing with an agency, independant adoption falling thru a month before baby was due and a week after painting nursery, searching thru foster children listings 3x's a week for 3 hours, being matched with a child in 18 hours away, driving down and spending a week and $5,000, coming home and awaiting ICPC, finding out 2 weeks later foster parents adopted child behind our back, almost matched with another child out of state. We then come down to being one of two families considered for a child that had spent entire life in hospital due to severe complex medical needs, for childs 4th birthday we drove 18 hours to meet child and caseworker, spent a couple of days, came home and awaiting the match meeting a week later between us and other family. We are matched, then go thru process to become foster parents to speed up ICPC, then await medical transport of our child home to us. Child has blossomed ih our home, and with team of specialists. Average 2-3 visits a month to childrens hospital 1 1/2 hours away, ans have had 3 hospital stays there, and we have 2 upcoming surgeries. ICPC and finalization took a year to finalize, 2 months ago! From beginning to end, a 3 year process... I now realize I have beeh so consumed over those 3 years with the adoption process and our childs medical care, that husband and I grew apart... We are now working on building our marriage and family relatiinships stronger...
Answer by Bellarose0212 at 6:40 AM on Mar. 15, 2012
Answer by frogdawg at 6:50 PM on Feb. 7, 2012
Answer by adopteeme at 3:51 AM on Feb. 8, 2012
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 12:14 AM on Feb. 7, 2012
Answer by frogdawg at 6:45 PM on Feb. 7, 2012
Answer by adopteeme at 3:50 AM on Feb. 8, 2012
Answer by GlitteribonMom at 11:12 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
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