Teenagers and hanging out...

Mine were never allowed to just hang out. They had to have clear, set in stone plans from the 9th grade until graduation. They were allowed 1 activity with friends per week...a Friday night or a Saturday night, never both.

Never if I detect large crowds.

I wish they would. They still rely on us to be their social secretaries. My daughter does sports and will do activities with the team during the season, but once the season is over she mopes. It's a big problem. And my son would love to get together with friends but every time he tries to make some kind of plan everyone ends up being busy.

Well I only have one home now and he is 18 and a Senior. He comes and goes as he pleases. He knows to be in by 11pm on school nights, and if he is going to spend the night somewhere he has to call by 9-10pm. Mostly he does stay home during the week, maybe 2 times during the week (Mon-Fri) he goes out and that includes working. On weekends hes never home.

Our children mostly entertained their friends at our house. There were a few other parents whom we trusted that sometimes invited the kids to hang out at their house, but we mostly were the hosts. They did not "hang out" at the mall or other places where they were unsupervised.

whenever they want as long as chores and homework is done and they come home on time ;)
*if they go to someone's house I have to either know them well- and or parents need to be around. A lot of the time though, they hang out here!

Our 15 yr old son has been to a couple parties where the parents were also there, and we met and spoke to them before we let him go, and it lasts maybe a couple hours. Other than that they can spend the day at a friends on a Saturday as long as the parents are home. They don't hang at the mall, or in town, we live out in the country and they have stuff to do, dirt bikes, etc... It's hard to let them have friends over here because the spoiled entitled friends they have think it's boring at our house, because we don't have a giant TV, with every game system on the planet, and we will NOT let them ride our boys dirt bikes because we don't want a law suit on our hands. I also have found that I just don't like other peoples kids, if they don't have manners, and complain about the food we eat, and the rules we have they get annoying real fast.

*if you mean out and about like the mall or whatever- my son isn't really into that too much -but niether of my kids have ever given me any reason not to trust that they are where they way they are- or that they are with who they say they are with. They don't generally hang out with any large groups- they are usually only with 1 or 2 friends at a time

Also if you mean parties. I dont micromanage or helicopter parent my kids. I figure by the time they can drive my job is basically done. I have taught them to say no to drugs, dont drink and drive, and dont get pregnant or get anyone pregnant or Ill kick their ass. Mine go to parties all the time, always have. None of them have ever come home drunk or on drugs. Now they have spent the night in at their friends if theyd been drinking, and then came home and got me being VERY loud all day.

Never. I wasn't allowed to just hang out, and my kids aren't either. I need to know where they are going, who they are going to be with, and what time they will be home. They also do not tell me where they are going, they ask if they can go somewhere with someone. There needs to be something to do where they are going, not just sit around - unless they are supervised at a friends house by parents I trust.