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Help! my fiances 4 year old whines all day & night!

My fiance just lets his 4 year old cry all day, it is driving me crazy! I don't even want to come home because his child just repeats himself all day (i.e. I want to go to grandma's). My fiance just ignores it and lets him cry non-stop. It is a huge head ache and my children don't behave this way. I don't know what to do because I don't want to walk all over his parenting.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:32 PM on Feb. 8, 2012 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • I do NOT tolerate whining at all. It is one of my biggest pet peeves. There is NO reason any child needs to whine or be allowed to get away with it. I told my son that I do NOT answer to whining, I only answer to big boy voices. If he wanted to whine he had to go to his room until he was ready to be a big boy. I taught preschool and I stopped 2 year olds from whining. I had many grateful parents.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 10:39 PM on Feb. 8, 2012

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  • I nanny a little boy like this. All I say is, "I really want to get you what you need, but I can't understand you when you whine. Talk to me in your big-boy voice and I will get you what you need." I also say, "we don't say 'I want', so if you can ask me nicely, I can help you". Consistency is key! Keep trying mama!
    kenzie07

    Answer by kenzie07 at 9:42 PM on Feb. 8, 2012

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  • One more thing I do... If the kiddo continues to cry without complying, I say, "its okay if you'd like to cry, but you're going to have to go to the other room until you can be calm". This usually works.
    kenzie07

    Answer by kenzie07 at 9:44 PM on Feb. 8, 2012

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  • PS.. " i don't want to walk a over his parenting" from what i read.. his parenting sucks when it comes to disciplining. if he is your fiance now is the time to speak up ! you should be able to talk to him about any and everything that bothers you. open communication is key- especially if you are engaged.
    gwen20

    Answer by gwen20 at 10:31 PM on Feb. 8, 2012

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  • "all over
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    Answer by gwen20 at 10:32 PM on Feb. 8, 2012

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  • He is not your child, if you don't like the way your DH deals with him, don't marry him simple as that.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:59 AM on Feb. 9, 2012

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  • i would not marry him because if he does not know how to deal with his his kid at 4 years old it might be a big issue when he is a teen. i would prefer throw in the towel now than having an annoying kid put a strain on my marriage.
    gwen20

    Answer by gwen20 at 10:28 PM on Feb. 8, 2012

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  • if you are planning on getting married don't you have some say on how the raise the children, even if it isn't yours? I understand you don't want him to think you disagree with his parenting style but if you are going to raise children together you should get on the same page. You sound like you know what you are doing. Ask him if he cares if you do whatever it is you think would help, but that if he is uncomfortable or feels it's crossing a line you wont.
    dbodani

    Answer by dbodani at 12:52 AM on Feb. 9, 2012

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  • I agree with above. Another thing I used to do was to laugh at them and whine back in their tone. Just a simple "i can talk like that too , see what you sound like " in a whine voice and walk away. Also a phrase I remember saying was "either talk or sing but don't do both at the same time."
    LeJane

    Answer by LeJane at 9:50 PM on Feb. 8, 2012

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