I am worried about my nephew in law....

He (Liam) is 7 weeks old and is constanly making little noises.... I have a 9 month old and he didn't do that. Liam's mom decided not to breastfeed him. Not even a little. She didn't even try. I don't mean to be critical and I didn't think I would be like this.

I am still breastfeeding my 9 month old son constantly and I think it is great. Maybe I am having this view on it cause I was 100% formula fed and had lots of digestive issues and infections my whole life. I am kind of against formula unless it is completely necessary.

She got a leave from work and doesn't have to be back until Liam is 4 months, but whats the point cause everytime I have gone there she is gone anyways. My SO mother lives with them and is constantly watching him... she told them that noise he is making is not normal and they won't listen. He sleeps on his stomach every night and they haven't brought him to the ped yet...

I looked at his formula and it is milk derived. I know I had to cut dairy out of my diet since my son didn't do well with it. I just wish she had tried breastfeeding... Liam seems like he isn't really attached to anyone. Neither of his parents are ever there and my SO's mom is on the verge of dementia and is on all sorts of pills and really spacy. I know it sounds crazy I just want to take that baby home and breastfeed him myself.

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:50 AM on Feb. 9, 2012 in Kids' Health

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I didnt breastfeed 2 of my kids and were very close. I did breastfeed 3 of them though. I think it is a personal choice and it doesnt mean that their son isnt close to them. It just means they choose to parent their baby differently than you do. Not all babies have digestive issues because of formula. Neither of my sons have and they are adults now. Babies also are all different and make noises. I would be more concerned about him sleeping on his stomach since that isnt recommended. But beyond that I think that their decision on how to raise their baby is none of your business unless they are abusing him.

Answer by gemgem at 7:54 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
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It made me so sad.... He was routing at my chest when I was over there. I co-sleep and I have only been away from my son for two hours at the most. No one else besides his father has watched him. I am afraid of sids for Liam.. cause I think he is having severe reflux and aspirating formula. I mentioned it to Liams father, my SO brother, but he said.." He seems fine" and looked at me like I was a bitch. All I said was that I think he is having reflux. I just want them to bring him to the ped.

Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 7:56 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
I just think babies need lots of cuddles.... its proven in a study about reese monkies that were seperated from there mothers. They went mental... And atleast "try" to breastfeed. She just keeps going out partying, tanning, etc... She hardly seems interested in her kid. I think formula is about a corporation making money and not for the health of a baby.... I understand when the mom has aids, "truly" can't breastfeed, or dies... then yes.. baby needs formula, but if its just cause you want to party or not be tied down then why have a kid. Before I got pregnant... I drank all the time, and smoked my fair share of pot. But as soon as I found out I was preggo. I did a 180 and ate super healthy and gave all that up. Yes there are times when my sanity has been pushed to the brink, but I have to do what is best for my kid.

Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 8:07 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
Not everyone is like you. She is not the last person you will meet who parents differently.

Answer by gemgem at 8:19 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
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So she doesn't breastfeed. Big deal. Not everyones child is allergic to milk. Not everybody finds joy in breastfeeding. Everybody's baby doesn't make the same sounds. Welcome to the real world where everybody is not exactly like you.

It would be wise to quit judging and commenting on your potential in-laws' habits and behaviors. Maybe this woman isn't home when you go over there because she is avoiding you.

You also mentions that she goes tanning. I think you are a little jealous.

Mind your own business. Get your own kid to sleep in his or her own bed. While you're at it, try weaning the 9 month old kid with teeth.

Answer by mrsgino at 8:50 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
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I think the most important thing here is that they haven't taken him to the pediatrician, and if by that you mean that he hasn't been in his life then that is a problem. I don't think you should worry about the breast feeding. Keep up the good work yourself, but don't stick your nose in another mother's choices. But if the baby is having a problem and has never ever been to the doctor for a well baby check-up that is a problem.

Answer by LoveMyDog at 9:34 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
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The only part I would give my 2 cents on is the fact he has not seen a doctor yet,, I think that is abusrd,, the other stuff is a MYOB moment.

Answer by kimigogo at 9:55 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
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Have your MIL take the kid to the doctor.

Answer by kimigogo at 9:56 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
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As far as the noises he is making, he's pushing out farts. No big deal. My Son did that too & he is perfectly fine. Every baby is different. Millions of people have been bottle fed with no issues at all. The real issue here is that they have not taken him to a Pediatrician. How about YOU & your MIL take him. Forget wanting to breast feed him, take the initiative & bring him in for his health. If your MIL is not capable of caring for the child then talk to your DH to talk to his Brother.

Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 10:51 AM on Feb. 9, 2012
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I would be most worried about someone incompetent caring for an infant. Maybe you should offer to watch the child

Answer by rkoloms at 5:35 PM on Feb. 9, 2012
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