For parents of more than one child of different ages.....

eh my kid eldest was stll 1 when my youngest was born, granted he turned 2 the next month but still. you will be able to get everything done, it takes some practice but then its just second nature just like it was the first time. lol

My girls are 3 yrs apart. At 3, you can leave her semi-alone (in another room) for a few minutes while you care for your newborn. Also you can get your oldest to help with her new sibling. I think 3 yrs apart is a whole lot easier than 1 yr apart!

I have a 13,7,2 and 1 month old. My oldest kinda ones his own thing, he's old enough to handle himself. During bath time, my 7 yo showers first then my 2 yo, then dh or I get in with the baby and the " dry" spouse get the baby. Once my dh leaves though baby will get a bath in sink and put to bed before I shower. It honestly becomes second nature, I think newborns are the easiest to care for, thy sleep all the time.

honestly im terrified to have this baby, im worried about so much, mainly that i can still give my daughter enough attention.

You can do it, momma. I used to be worried about that too. But, I've been caring for mine now all on my own since my youngest was 10 months old. Now, they're 5 & 2.

It will all fall into place.......you'll see. My oldest was three when our youngest was born and he was my big helper for everything. And he was a most cooperative child too so I was very lucky. Now if it was reversed I would have had a tougher job on my hands! But your days will be very busy and hopefully fun too. One word of advice.......really zero in on what is most important, like do they really need a bath every night? Do their clothes have to be exactly what you want them to wear? etc...........I remember giving my three year old a lot of choices as far as clothes, etc. It helps a lot and makes them very proud to do things themselves. GL and congrats!

My son was 3.5 when his sister was born. Honestly, those firs few months are such a blur of sleep depravity that I don't remember much. I DO remember reading him books while I nursed, cuddling and dozing through a Sesame Street episode while he was fascinated. Small stuff like that. If he wanted to help take diapers to the garbage we let him, if he didn't we didn't push. 95% of his involvement with his sister was by his choice (or not).

We also made sure to do special things just for him. One was swimming lessons. They were something HE could do that the baby couldn't. And, since we were going to a YMCA I could check her into the on-site daycare for 90 minutes, which gave me just enough time for his lessons, getting him showered and changed then we went to get her.

They're now almost 8.5 and almost 5. They drive each other crazy, like most siblings do, but neither one will let anyone but THEM hurt the other.

I'm with whitepeppers on this one too. My son is one of the most easy going kids I know. He was (and still is, most of the time) a breeze of a kid. My daughter.............*sigh* if she had been born first she would have been an only child.

Don't let me scare you though. Both of my kids are great kids, in their own ways. As frustrating as they can be at times, I KNOW it will serve them good stead when they are grown.

Ex: a month or two ago my kids were going to a friend's house in our apartment complex. Some other neighbors followed them over and tried to cause problems outside the door. My son was ready to take on all 4 of the other kids to protect him and his sister. Thankfully nothing happened, but that's the way my kids are.