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My husband left me 2 weeks ago saying he doesn't have feelings for me, but he cares about me and loves me as the mother of his daughter. He took his ring off and moved with his aunt and uncles. Do I think he's cheating, no. Before D day he sat across from me night after night. Always came home on time. That's whatever tho..
My point is, I understood we had issues and started marriage counseling, but the Counselor (who we really liked) had to go out for surgery and recovery for a month. A few days before the counselor came back and we were suppose to start back. My husband left.
I asked him if he would go to counseling again and he said no. (we had an issue come up but I miscarried) Now it seems after talking to a lawyer he can not afford, and finding out he will prob have to pay my Lawyers fee's. (I'm a stay at homemom). My lawyer is $375 an hour. I'm getting help to pay that till he is ordered to pay his portion. Plus I get to tap is retirement he's in the military) He says he wants to be amicable (he would rather just fill out a separation agreement between us, but he know I won't go for it since he did me dirty by walking out), and now wants to go to counselling with no labels tho. When I push it he says he will go to Marriage counseling which is what it is anyway. Since it's with a Chaplin and he doesn't supportdivorce. He is more willing to talk to me. He smiles and is even downright playful at times. it annoys me so bad.
I tell him how he has hurt me and he fires back with I have hurt him badly. Because I don't trust anyone (not even him and I have accused him of things) with my daughter because I was molested by my father. He says that changed the way he felt about me. He says when he was home and he looked at me I always seemed so unhappy. So after he picked up our daughter for her sat art class. He texted me and asked if I wanted Cinnabun?? Wtf??
I told him to his face I understood we had issues to deal with, but I thought we should go to counseling and give it try to save the marriage. So I was pissed, and he knows I would drag the D out because of that reason. Now he says lets do the counseling and get our feelings out there. He is being strangely agreeable to anything I want now. Can the cost of a D really change a persons attitude like that?
So now we are headed back to counseling for one last ditch effort....
Asked by Anonymous at 8:06 PM on Feb. 12, 2012 in Relationships
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Answer by onelove1982 at 10:24 PM on Feb. 12, 2012
I think the therapy is good regardless of where things are headed with the two of you. Communication is key and you have to be on the same page (or at least know where each other stand) when it comes to raising the DD you created together. You also should work on therapy for the abuse you sustained when you were younger so that you don't cloud your DD's judgement by your experiences.
Answer by QuinnMae at 11:16 PM on Feb. 12, 2012
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